[hint: this is a psychological question]
Question:
Regardless of how how you generally feel or think about the idea or suggestion of sexual coupling when you're just out and about...
do you find that once you are IN the state of coupling, and before you've really had a chance to clearly establish how it's going, do you generally recall feeling/thinking that you:
are able to normalize it, chill out and just want to enjoy staying that way for a while? and if so, do you...
a. talk, relate, alternate focus on bliss and person?
b. or do you struggle to relate but just mainly work toward (or against) your (or their) orgasm?
find it just generally too wierd/overwhelming a situation to normalize, clam up, and just want to
a. quit and get back to what YOU consider to be normal?
b. just focus on cumming and deal with the person later.
My point of view as an old fashioned in a romantic relationship is to know the personality, emotional stage and later focus on 1- a
1a - a great sexual connection is one of the sweetest of human experiences for me. I won't go there unless I am deeply connected with my partner. Any other attempt at coupling would most likely land me in category 2, but there would be no orgasm or even pleasure, which would likely = a cancelled mission, if it was even attempted to begin with.
Oh gosh, number one… but the downside is, for me, to have that experience, I need to be with someone who ..checks all the boxes, and that’s not easy to find … in my neck of (fuckin) woods.. I’ve this crazy, stupid, old fashioned requirement that I be attracted to a lover. But if that criterias met ~ bliss (for all concerned )
I would consider that as just using another human as a masturbate device.
@EarnestEccentric "just want to get it over with, cum, and get back to what you consider normal?"
I think I’d only feel the latter if I disliked the person I was with. But then I don’t tend to sexually couple with people I dislike.
How old are you??? That's a question that would only be asked by someone who's never done it.
@EarnestEccentric nope, sometimes I just like being an arsehole