Before I would meet anyone I need to talk on the phone and get an idea of their personality. I message for hours here sometimes and talk on the phone for hours. My personality will be revealed in posts here, messaging and on the phone. I think people notice my personality because I am so open and down to earth.

At our core we are simplistic. We want something beautiful to be beautiful. When we find that sight can decieve, we are disappointed. In this way we learn to question what we are shown.

I'm used to it. No one ever gets past my appearance. No one ever "sees me" in terms of my personality. That's why I like being a faceless online entity so much. It doesn't bother me anymore than rain being wet bothers me: I may not like it, but it is what it is: natural, and no one's fault.

A lot of it for me is how a person interacts. If there's something that makes me want to know more about them, that's what gets me interested in them.

I think it takes conscious effort to look at a person and try to see beyond the surface, outward appearance. For this reason, traditional dating sites do not work in my opinion. Physical attraction is fun but evanescent. Attraction based on interests, values, personality has longevity. I am not offended if someone says something nice about how I appear. If that is the extent of conversation, that's the end of conversation.

You said: "Why are we offended that sometimes looks betray us (meaning that personality doesn't always follow what our eyes might devour)?"

It sounds like you expect physically attractive people to have attractive personalities, and vice versa. Is this what you're saying? You see an attractive personality and you EXPECT an equally pleasant personality?

I have a feeling that this is not what you mean, could you clarify?

Because we are not educated enough on how the brain processes information: THE EYES RULE.

It is like a lake on the surface is nice but not sure howdeep is it and what mystery it holds

Shallow Hal

Very much dependant on the relationship between cortex and brain!! In some people it's different. It's mostly about reproduction. I suppose we get offended as people all express a desire to want to kow someone's personality (as that is socially acceptable) but don't always follow that line of logic in reality. So you get missnomers. Suppose you get people buying into styles as well who aren't so sure of who they are.. So someone may like a grunge look and buy clothes to that effect but in no way understand a grunge "scene" or ever have been near one... Welcome to the magic roundabout / massive strange lottery of people who don't know themselves that well (and blame others) lol!

I wish people would notice my personality too. Most people that I talk to think that I am nice. I think I am a nice person. I'm friendly too.

Because cis hetero men are attracted to women primarily through their eyes.

To avoid wasting time pursuing infertile females with poor genes, they are most attracted to "beautiful" women..which means faces with the most average, or even, features. This also indicates genetic diversity. Tiny waists and rounded busts and hips indicate fertility and baby-bearing capabilities.

Cis hetero women tend to choose money and status over both, and sometimes sneak quickies with handsome doormen during their fertility period so they can have it both ways-be married to good provider with horrible genes, and have sound children with a sexy, male who is low status.

So, if your post is to complain that women always say (correctly) that men are only attracted through their eyes, then I agree with them.