I get absolutely no communication from my ex regarding childcare arrangements week by week. We share custody and he works part time. If I don't contact him and arrange everything it doesn't happen! I organise all the extra curriculum appointments, sleep overs, birthdays and holidays. He's basically the babysitter for when I'm in work. I tried very hard to get him to see more of the kids when we split but now I just think his loss is my gain. It's hard though, I either have the kids or I'm in work. He takes them 1 weekend in 4 and when I work nights.