There's a guy I want to roll in the hay with but because of strong ties and the fact he's mightily striaght, it will never happen. One can fantasize though.

I like men close to 6' and within a year of my age, lean and fit, vegan, has a masters, rides horses, ballroom dances, likes mild S&M.
Wait.
I'm talking about my ex.
Still, it's true.

Short, fat, out of shape men who gorge on junk food and lie in front of the TV don't do anything for me except that I might want to be friends.

I like a man who is strong, can maybe build things, fix things, chop wood, build a fire, but enjoys reading, learning, and thinking. A man of honor and integrity, with a warrior's heart. I want to be able to do things together, and have our own lives also. I don't have a particular type, likewise, but I don't want a man who is obsessed about his looks, or who is always trying to impress everyone. I'm old, round and certainly don't have the looks I had when I was young, so I'm not picky about looks. That being said, I do prefer that whatever their body type, they are able to move around, have some stamina, since underneath my fat, I still have muscle and able to do things. I like a guy who is secure and fun, but who does not need to be the center of attention.

The one thing that bugs me is a squeaky voice.

I'm attracted to taller, older, smarter men. The older part usually gets me looks, but I'm so far beyond caring.

I've dated a tall, thin, and older man before. As well as a short round man. Or, um, 2 boys, not men. Lol.

I llike a man my height 5'10" or talller. Great eyes that hint oof daring and exploration and a good sense oof humor and a nasty smile. I date men younger at times and around my age if they are in touch with their body and eroticism. Bad kissing a deal breaker

For me, the outer package is somewhat trivial. It's about who they are as a person...

um, sort of... i have always dated men who have issues, and i know we all have issues, but i mean men who have issues who don't want to work on them. i have always wondered what it would be like to be in a healthy relationship. but i honestly don't know anybody who is ready to settle down. im not saying theres anything wrong with casual dating or one night stands or any of that, but im at a point where thats just not what im looking for anymore. all the people i know are still partying and cheating and playing mental games of you hurt me so i will hurt you. i just don't want that anymore. if we have a problem, and we are in a relationship, i want to discuss it, decide if we can work thru it, or decide to move on. i have no time left for cheating, lying, hiding things, or any of that, i just want someone whos willing to either make an effort to fix the problem, or be man enough to say im done.

In the past I was attracted to younger tall, slim, long dark haired, men. That has changed considerably. Intelligence, liberal politics, emotionally, socially and sexually available are more important now. Physical characteristics are secondary.

When I read your post I had to giggle. No body shaming but there are a lot of thick and fluffy women for you to feast on.

I dated and married a big girl because I was a big guy. 23 years later both of us are now much healthier and have lost a lot of weight. If I had to go back into the dating game -- which I hope never happens -- I don't think I would want another unhealthy partner.

I'm still not so secretly in love with a particular woman but it is not to be and I'm trying to move on and build a new future. But I'm finding it difficult to get her off my mind.

One that treats me right so that I can recipricate.