Wel, well, well. I qualify as suitable, except that I live thousands of miles away and I'm somewhat older than you.

In my experience, women tend to have more comprehensive lists of dealbreakers.

@Sgt_Spanky Often because men are often seeking a housemaid.

@JackPedigo housemaid/fb

@TheoryNumber3 Sometimes fb can work if both are seeking the same. Being alone for 5+ years, on an island (albeit a very active one) sometimes companionship with someone with her own place on another part of the island is starting to look desirable. All of my adult life friends have told me I would make a good wife. I guess that's good as I have myself to do domestic chores. LOL

@Sgt_Spanky Not necessarily comprehensive. Just ask. I'm sure there are plenty of other things on there she didn't think of.

@Gwendolyn2018 I understand that and know it happens often. A close friend has an aunt that is 96 and is needing to go from a separate apt. to a group facility. She told me she is concerned this may be her plight in the future (she is a couple of years younger than me). I think it is on many people's mind. I think if more people took better care of themselves beforehand there might be less concern. Also, some states (as here) have the DwD program and I would avail myself of this in a heartbeat. Also, the final exit network has advice for ways of ending ones days/misery. I would hate to be a burden on another and hope I don't have to deal with another's burden. With my late partner (5 years ago today) it was an easy death for everyone and she did take the DwD plan and willed her body to the U of Wash. She had no pain and did not suffer. I too have signed up for the willed body program.

@Gwendolyn2018 I's just another worry about many at our 'stage of life.' I do not want to be taken care of but also am not a nurturer, but. However, I am lucky in that all my vital signs are great and I try to stay active. I think the older we get the more proactive we need to be.

@Gwendolyn2018 That's impressive and it takes willpower. I'm lucky in that no one in my big family has ever had a problem with weight. Mother was petite and father average. We all had smallish frames and were basically ectomorph's. While in the military I took up body building to relieve the boredom and it became a habit. Now, I see the benefits. Unfortunately, life is often about luck. Sometimes I feel I've had more than my share in both directions.

@Gwendolyn2018 Yes, luck/DNA is important. But so is nurture. My dad also smoked (Chesterfields). When he was a kid he fell in a lake and almost drowned. He was taken to a hospital and a tube was placed in one lung to drain the water. He had a large scar and that kept him out of the war. However, all the males (4) on his side had high cholesterol and high BP. One day he was listening to music and his body froze. In the hospital he had a brain tumor and it was found lung cancer. He refused the BP medications and that night his one weak lung filled with fluid and he died. He was 67. 12 years later my mother died from Ovarian cancer (she never paid attention to her health and refused to see a doctor unless it was an emergency. The cancer had spread and she spent 6 miserable months on chemo. She was also 67. The women on my dad's side did not have the HC issue and lived to 89. One aunt was always depressed and when she was forced in a nursing home she refused to eat and died of starvation. My aunt, loved to party. She ended up getting pancreatic cancer (alcohol does affect the pancreas). My maternal grandfather never had serious health problems (women, sweets and a touch of diabetes). He went to a doctor for a check-up and fell asleep in the waiting room and died of a heart attack. I just had a brother die. He and I had just rediscovered each other and we went to Vietnam together. He had tongue cancer. He was 71. My maternal grandmother also had depression issues and committed suicide when I was very young. I don't know much about my paternal grandparents but they lived to a older age. For me, with my luck I will probably die from an accident - they have been a big part of my life, both + and -.

@Gwendolyn2018 Good to know.

@Gwendolyn2018 There's nothing wrong with being eccentric but for some others it can be daunting. I guess one has to go with has worked. For me I'm still trying to figure out what that is.

@Gwendolyn2018 What's normal? These days being 'eccentric' is normal.

@Gwendolyn2018 So does that mean you are a 'special' eccentric? So being off-centered is ones rating dependent on how close to the rim they are? Me, I guess I'm just the average, ordinary, run of the mill eccentric. lol

@Gwendolyn2018 Still, makes a lot of sense.I guess there're degrees of eccentricity. What's weird for some may be perfectly normal for another. I guess what really matters is, is it a good weird or a bad one (or a neutral one which sounds kind of boring). I'll try to think of some weird things I do (a friend is always saying I am weird - maybe he's weird and I'm normal).

on behalf of all unattached males out here, thank you.

@holdenc98 You're welcome.
However, you were never in any danger whatsoever.
But hey, thanks for proving my point.

Life's just lots better with a dog. Speaking if which, have you pulled the trigger on that yet?

@Sgt_Spanky I concur.
I have not. Just moved to a new place.
No pets.
Unless I were to get a service dog, which I have no intention of doing.

Any form of psychopathic personality disorder is a given, I'd think.

@Sgt_Spanky Meh.. some people love crazy. Never assume.

At least you admit it about not wanting to date bald men. I think about 40% or more of women share your attitude, which is fine with me, we all have our preferences about appearance and looks. It also pisses me off that Match got rid of listing a member's preferences of what they were looking for in a dating partner. In the past you could see on a profile what they were looking for in race, hair color, including baldness, income level, whether they had kids, etc. Now you just have to guess what their preferences are and waste your time messaging people who already know they aren't interested in you. I guess dating sites thought all that preference stuff was too non-PC or maybe they got rid of it because it was too much work for their IT staff to deal with it.

I notice you are way younger than me. By the time you get to my age, over half the men in your dating pool at that age will be bald, so keep working on your attitude, lol. Because, trust me, most of the men in that age range will also mostly be unwilling to date someone their age or a woman who is at all overweight. Unlike most men in my age group, I don't mind dating women my age, as well as women several years older or younger than me, as well as women who are somewhat overweight. It gets pretty brutal for women and men at the older ages in the dating game.

I'm adding one more to my list: women who don't like bald men. Some of us didn't have a choice.

@Sgt_Spanky Tell me about it. I noticed a long time ago how much less attraction women who just met me seemed to have once I got older, became bald, and no longer had an athletic body. It goes both ways.

@Sgt_Spanky I’m really trying to work on it.

Lying, yes, unforgivable.

@Sgt_Spanky I had a short (6-month) relationship with a liar. Never again.

prejudice doesnt require hatred and viceversa. do you recognize "positive" prejudices?

@holdenc98

prejudice from Latin praeiudicium "prior judgment" from prae- "before" + iudicium "judgment,"
preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.

There is no such thing as "Positive Prejudice"
Prejudice is without reason, thought or anything positive.

@LenHazell53 ........ there IS positive prejudice. read this from wiki. " The word "prejudice" can also refer to unfounded or pigeonholed beliefs[3][4] and it may apply to "any unreasonable attitude that is unusually resistant to rational influence".[5] Gordon Allport defined prejudice as a "feeling, favorable or unfavorable, toward a person or thing, prior to, or not based on, actual experience".[6] Auestad (2015) defines prejudice as characterized by "symbolic transfer", transfer of a value-laden meaning content onto a socially-formed category and then on to individuals who are taken to belong to that category, resistance to change, and overgeneralization.[7] "

@holdenc98
Bullshit.
Only those who benefit from prejudice against other believe prejudice can be positive. EG. Nazis and white supremacists.
I explained the original, dictionary and ACTUAL meaning of Prejudice.

@LenHazell53 ............... .and ive quoted wiki back to you showing you your error

@holdenc98
"ive quoted wiki back to you showing you your error"
Priceless
OH stop please I'm going to piss myself

agree

Wait a second, I resemble the last part of your remark. I love cats and have found that most cat lovers are good people.

@TomMcGiverin Well then we won't be dating, and while most cat lovers might be good people, I'm allergic to ALL of their cats

@lerlo Quite understandable and appropriate for you to avoid cat lovers and their cats. I run into the same sort of problem with most women in my local dating pool, as I have allergies, as do you, only mine are to outdoor seasonal pollens. Most women in my dating pool are outdoors people that will not date a man who won't join them outdoors most of the time in the warmer months of the year, so I lose out on dating any of them.

@TomMcGiverin yes there are women with desires. If you caught a recent post here you're not allowed to call a woman "hot" until you know her. They do try and make it difficult

@lerlo I am aware of that. Dealing with women in online dating does often involve navigating a narrow and ambiguous line of communication, often even having to speak in code about your intentions and your impressions of them. I have been, for example, blown off by a woman simply for mentioning how nice her lips looked in her photos and how much I enjoy kissing. She felt that was inappropriate for a first message, but she likely would have rejected me anyway for not being on her level of looks. She breadcrumbed me by replying to my messages with long gaps, but never giving me a straight answer on whether she was interested in getting to know me or not, making excuses for why she was taking so long to reply, etc. Just another example of a good looking woman knowing her value in the dating game and using it to play games with a man who is interested in dating her.

@TomMcGiverin Exactly.. if they thought the guy was hot who said they were hot they wouldn't care. Had a woman get insulted when I offered to fly her to Phoenix to meet me. I can think of 10 or 12 other possible adjectives but insulted isn't one of the choices

@lerlo I think what you say is true with many women, but certainly not all. So yes, there is a lot of false modesty and dishonesty from some women about whether they want to hear compliments about their looks before they get to know the guy more. So, I have learned since the example I cited for you in my experience and I treat all women the same in online dating since then. I know my place in the pecking order and the game of online dating as an average looking man and simply don't comment on a woman's looks until either she brings it up in messaging or until I have already jumped thru all the hoops and passed all the tests of earning the right to finally meet her in person, at which time I tell her her she looks nice or great and compliment her appropriately on her outfit.

As you say, doing anything else as an average looking man, interacting with an average or above average looking woman, will only be held against you if it comes before the in person meeting and will only aid your better looking competition.

I agree. When we are newly single, most of us, and probably men more than women, are not as choosy about who we date compared to those who have been on their own a long time.

If someone's attractive enough anything becomes negotiable.

Sorry, I neglected to reference the complete listings of previously addressed topics prior to posting this. I suck.

@Sgt_Spanky I was not being critical of you bringing up an old topic, but you are entitled to your sarcastic response. I was not trying to provoke that.