Do women have the right to pop the question?
I've been with my better half for ten years but we are not legally married although we consider ourselves married. She's been married twice before and me once. We both agreed years ago that getting married was not important to us but I think time has changed her views because over the past year or so she's hinted at wanting to get hitched. Since she's started hinting every time we are out and any someone ask us when we're gonna get married I always say "as soon as she ask me" and it just pisses her off. I'm a man that does'nt understand. I would say "I do" but should the man ALWAYS be the one to ask.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.why get married? it's religious and I don't need someone elses approval of who I should or shouldn't be with especially if I'm paying them.
LeighShelton
Level 8
Dec 3, 2017
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you pay for the wedding and that doesn't make sense unless you're wanting to live with someone who is not a citizen then I would. if it mattered to my partner they wouldn't be my partner
After ten years you should know her quite well. Does she like romantic moments? Maybe she is hoping for something "special". There are many proposals on youtube, brings some up and watch her reaction. That should give you a hint of what she may like. She may just want you to put some thought into a proposal. 
Betty
Level 8
Dec 2, 2017
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I think you hit the nail on the head. She wants me to ask her and not the other way around even though she's the one bringing it up. Is there a stigma associated with a women asking a man?
It's all about preference and what was traditional when a girl grows up. I don't think my grandchildren will have second thoughts about stigma but my youngest one is very much into the fairytale and romantic notions, the other two would probably say let's get hitched if they even bother.
Bring some of the youtube stuff up, make some off the cuff comment to get her to look at it and watch her face. That should tell you everything you need to know. If it is the romance she wants then get busy getting creative. You know her likes and dislikes best so play on that.
Let me know what happens, please. Good luck.
Mine did on the traditional day for doing so, Sadi Hocken's Day, February 29th.
HeathenFarmer
Level 8
Dec 2, 2017
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How's that gong for ya?
Iy when very well indeed.
Sounds like you just want confirmation of your opinion that she should be the one to pop the question and not you. Personally, it sounds like she already has.
kiramea
Level 7
Dec 2, 2017
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Why should it matter which of the couple "pops" the question? It sounds like she has, but you are unable to give an answer. You want to and she does. Put yourselves out of your misery.
Treasurehunter
Level 6
Dec 2, 2017
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I think that she thinks it's wrong. The man is suppose be the one to to ask. Right now it's an on goning tap dance.
My wide did.
Unicorn1824
Level 7
Dec 2, 2017
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How's it working out?
We got married but she died a year later.
Sorry to hear that unicorn. Hope your doing ok
Asking if she has the 'right' isn't how I would frame that question.
She does have the option if she chooses to take it, but if you're already committed to saying "I do" then go ahead and ask her.
Maybe she's more old-fashioned than you realize and prefers you {the man} propose.
Paul628
Level 8
Dec 2, 2017
2
She just acts like she doesn't have the "right". For the moment where in a who's gonna give in first competition. It's kinda like our own little joke with one another.
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