yes, your obsessed

Was it your first date?

Were you adults? If so she over reacted.

No, not at all. There are a lot of wacko women who get easily insulted, and you had the bad luck to meet one. I once asked my instructor in grad school for sex. She said no, but didn't get insulted, and I got an A in the course. She was a very cool lady.

The use of the word "appropriate" is interesting. I think there is something missing in this story

You probably saved yourself a great deal of frustration down the line. At least you found out early on that this was a relationship which was probably not worth pursuing.

One of the things that it's really important to find out early on in the courtship process is whether the person you are hoping to develop a romantic relationship with likes sex and sees it as an integral part of who they are. Not as some "other" aspect of their being which they parade around on rare occasions like the Crown Jewels.

If this person reacted so negatively to the thought of being physically intimate with you this early on, then imagine what things would have been like two years down the road if you had stuck around. You would have been lucky to receive physical intimacy once a month, and only then after having to grovel for days and weeks on end.

You don't want that. Always pursue women who like men and enjoy sex and you'll be much happier.

Just always remember to understand that not every intimate relationship you become involved in will wind up being a long term thing. She might get bored and move on, and that's perfectly ok. You'll know that it was good while it lasted and that you never had to grovel to have your needs met.

I think maybe your statement came off as aggressive. There are a LOT of variables that could have affected her response but I think that by phrasing it as a statement rather than a question... ie. Would you like to have sex with me? It makes it feel threatening.

Just to clarify things. I was about 18 and it was a second date I believe. I remember it well because it devastated me for awhile.

You didn't mention if this was your first date and your age. It would help to have more information before I could respond.

Well it was here. Hard to say ...thkhvhgetting angry is odd. Simple no or not there yet would suffice.

Was she Catholic?

You guys weren’t compatible, lucky you got a kiss

It all depends on how you said it, how well you knew her before the date, and so on. Lots of people have sex on the first date, not that I'm recommending it, so the idea that you had to be wrong is wrong.

Unless you were crass about it, I'd say she overreacted. Given the fact that she never spoke to you again and that you are asking about it now, my guess is that you creeped her out by how you asked and you already know the answer to your question.

Reminds me of a funny but true story...I had a date with a nursing student at a local catholic hospital. we went to see Janis Joplin. the event lasted longer then we thought and my date had to call the dorm where she was staying to let them know she was going to be late. when we got back to the dorm, the nuns greeted us at the door. I said good nite to my date and asked if the nun would turn around that I wanted to kiss my date good night. the nun laughed and turned around.

You never mentioned age. And age difference if any. I am not going to assume you were adults.