There has never been a time when a man called me a "bitch" that I did not wear the title proudly like a badge of honor.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Yep, it usually means the female has spoken the truth, outsmarted or bested the male, and he feels weak in comparison. Calling a woman a bitch usually says more about the man than the woman.
It never bothered me being called that many times by my ex-boyfriend, because it showed I was in the right, he was in the wrong, and he always apologized after, I just had to wait for it. I learned not to take his name calling personally - just a sign of his weakness.
So yes, if a woman can rankle a man to the point he resorts to name calling, that simply shows she's got power over him. So sure, a badge of honor. Never thought of it that way.
I hope to steer clear of men who don't respect women going forward.
Julie808
Level 8
Dec 2, 2021
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You remind of a woman of my acquaintance who uses her endometriosis as a weapon against misogynists.
anglophone
Level 9
Dec 1, 2021
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My mother, has passed, but he lessons are still relevant. Do not disrespect people, treat them with dignity, and do no harm. Strong words coming from her as my father was very abusive. I remember nothing before my fifth birthday, my mother told me this is a good thing. I once had a psychologist tell me I might was to work through this sometime. I told him why, if it is all pain and suffering, why would I want to remember it. I have learned that some people are assholes, and if one pays attention they will tell you who they are. Just give them a chance.
I think it is strange that several women who are called "bitch" by another I would like to call friend. I like strong women, smart women, women who can speak what they want and say what they mean. Much easier to know what is wanted. I do not like women who try to manipulate another into a guessing game of what they want, knowing there is never a correct answer.
dalefvictor
Level 8
Dec 1, 2021
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@Gwendolyn2018 Had I done this to you, (never happen) I would not know I was what I called you. One of the ways people tell you who they are.
@Gwendolyn2018 People tell you who they are, one just has to pay attention.
@Gwendolyn2018 I have never met a master manipulator, and hope I never will. They usually mess up as soon as they think they have you in their grips. Then it is time to bale.
Lauren
Level 8
Dec 1, 2021
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@Gwendolyn2018 And you do it with style and wit, no doubt.
Been looking at this picture and cannot help but think of my mom. The woman in the picture would call an ambulance, my mom would have gotten a shovel and dug a hole in the backyard. I do not want to end up in the backyard., unless there is a garden.
Funny, how that works. My late partner's daughter once told her, "Mom, you know all those times I said I hate You? Thank you." She too was totally unafraid of being called names but she had a gift in presenting her comments in such a way no one ever complained. We often had discussions about form or function. She believed in form and I function. Sometimes form works.
JackPedigo
Level 9
Dec 1, 2021
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@Gwendolyn2018 Sort of like the scarlet letter in the old days. Now it's being offered as a merit badge. Maybe they need a "B" for the girl Scouts. [ffrf.org]
@Gwendolyn2018 However, some also grow up to be bullies. Males do have the majority of violent, miscreant behavior but they are not a monopoly.
I have not yet been anointed with this lofty title; I think I've been doing something wrong. 
Organist1
Level 8
Dec 1, 2021
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@Gwendolyn2018 I learned to walk on eggshells from being around an alcoholic parent. Those days are over now, so I'll take your advice!
@Organist1 This was my daughter and I had no idea how much it affected her. Her mother was/is bipolar and her (late) stepfather was an active alcoholic. My daughter said she was living the Cinderella life and is still waiting for prince charming. I have spoken to her about being more assertive and am using myself as a way to practice her assertiveness.
@Organist1, @Gwendolyn2018 SO sorry to hear that and I do hear it far too often. Again, my late partner was in a psychologically abusive relationship for 25 years. Still, she never let it interfere with her relationship with others. When I came along I actively promoted her assertiveness because of how it was done. She was pretty brutal come April first.
I was thinking, just for a second, of telling you, I cannot even write the word, just so you could say you have been called this. I cannot think of a case where I could do this. Sorry, on my part you will have to keep your B****virginity.
@dalefvictor We can keep it hypothetical, but I really do appreciate the thought!
@JackPedigo Oh, that I can really relate to! It's the feeling that you don't have the right to speak up, as something terrible will happen.
@Organist1 I cannot even work on a hypothetical level on this topic.
@Organist1 Sorry, so many women feel that way. It's just plain wrong. Relationships should be about 'equality.' I am reminded of a quote I heard from a piece by Copeland and a 'supposed' quote by Lincoln. I looked it up and could find no Lincoln connection but did find many others and one surprised me. The picture shown is our Grand Coulee area. I have hiked this place numerous times. Am often surprised when getting into conversations and looking things up. The phrase is "I would neither a leader nor a follower be." [highwaychris.blogspot.com]
SInce we both are music lovers I will post the piece I found. Sure you've heard it many times.
"Actually slave nor master" 8:40
@JackPedigo Oh, yes; it's a nice piece. I love Copeland.
No story? You bitch! /snark
RichCC
Level 8
Dec 1, 2021
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@Gwendolyn2018 It's amazing what some people will say behind the shield of anonimity. They lack the character and the courage to accept rejection with grace. Good for you for staying assertive!
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