After having survived three divorces, I’m proud to say that I have remained best friends with my 2nd and 3rd ex wives. In fact my third is best friends with my current girlfriend. We are in an open relationship and have finally discovered a couple of deep but deceptively simple core inviolate rules. 1) No secrets, no exception.
2) No lies, no exceptions.
After coming to grips with my insecurities and working through them I can positively assert, that living by those two tenets makes life so much more enjoyable and productive. The fact that if something is true, there can be no feelings to hurt