Incredible chronic loss to the caretaker

I have a girlfriend whose mom just died of dementia. She was in a home. I do not want to watch someone die like that.

I have watched two grandmothers descent into that dark journey, lost, confused hysterical crying, absolutely heart breaking...in both cases death was a blessing.

I watched that episode of 60 Minutes, and it was so incredibly sad. It made me cry! What an awful thing for that poor woman to have to endure, and her husband was so loving and supportive. He eventually just couldn't handle being her caretaker anymore and ended up having to put her in a home - something he swore he wouldn't do when she was first diagnosed. It was heartbreaking to see him get more and more worn down over the years.

I watched it too. Really sad and difficult reality for people. I can't imagine seeing someone get lost like that, and what it must be like to be the afflicted person. I thought about this a lot after watching that segment. There comes a time that you need to also save yourself, I think. She didn't know him anymore and though he felt he would be betraying her if he put her in a facility that could help out, he needed to be saving himself at that point.