False dichotomy. The hypocrisy in church is the fiction that they have a superior morality, that they are sanctified (made better in character and morals by virtue of their relationship to god) and yet act worse rather than better than the surrounding culture.
Sure there's an element of "I'm a lowly, worthless worm whose righteousness is as filthy menstrual rags to god -- so I need to be told what to do / believe / feel", etc. But that's a separate issue.
Just this morning a spokesperson for evangelicals, announcing an unprecedented get-out-the-vote effort to support Trumpism and forestall any "blue wave" in the mid-term elections, said in response to a question about Trump's moral perfidy, "we didn't elect a husband, we elected a protector -- someone who will make the changes we want". That is the very "end justifies the means" situational ethics they used to rail against. Another spokesperson recently said they'd "give Trump a Mulligan" about the Stormy Daniels thing so long as he continues to deliver the desired judicial appointments. Prior to that you had the spectacle of Alabama Baptists openly giving support, comfort and a platform to a credibly accused child molester (twice-disgraced former judge Roy Moore).
All of which shows that they will tolerate any "sin" so long as they get the temporal power and influence that they crave.
If that isn't hypocrisy I don't know what is.
Well coming to think about it a lot of people in this site post questions about how to act and behave during everyday chores, always asking for guidance.
@MrLizard Point well taken, I been a believer of a man is an island.