@Gwendolyn2018 You're fortunate. I hear so many women telling a different story. But, ya know? A lot of it boils down to intelligence and the ability to pick and choose wisely. Some women (and men) make bad choices, over and over.

I like the way you think.

that is a good lesson

@TheDoubter It would be one that would never be forgotten.

@Betty Teach that man some respect! That woman has probably washed his smelly socks and put up with his crap for decades, his attitude needs an adjustment.

@MizJ I agree. Men like that look for women who are submissive, then take advantage and demean them. She needs a good support system and the opportunity to grow a backbone if she is to have a chance of changing the treatment she is receiving.

@Betty it could also leave permanent damage

@TheDoubter
That it could. Depends on the force used.

@TheDoubter The abuse he has been dishing out has definitely caused permanent damage, yes. Psychologists call long term abuse C-PTSD, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

@Betty She has scars already, see below please

@MizJ The link is not there.

I agree with you. The psychological scars would be deep depending on the amount of time. A good and informed therapist would probable be a good choice for her. The sad part is that many women accept this kind of behaviour from their partners. Fear is a big deterrent from seeking help especially in the older generations.

@MizJ he deserves whatever results then from a boot in the balls

@Betty Fear and financial reasons trap many, yes. Sad.

@MizJ I agree. Financial abuse is one of the ways a controlling partner maintains and continues the abuse. Another is separating their partner from any form of support from family and friends. A controlling partner will often escalate their abuse to physical abuse when total submission no longer satisfy them. Sad yes, too many times a woman has been permanently damaged psychologically/physically and emotionally and sometimes they lose their life.

@Gwendolyn2018 Sad but not uncommon.

@Gwendolyn2018 It is so nice that the social norms have evolved and women have their independence.

@Gwendolyn2018 He might find the stilettos erotic, the steel toed boots far less likely and running away would be easier in the boots.

@Gwendolyn2018, @Betty Independence is a product of equal pay and not being viewed as lesser than men and/or sexual objects. With Roe being effectively overturned and feminism a dirty word we have lost ground. Ask a 20 something who Gloria Steinem is and you get a blank look.

@MizJ I agree. I'm Canadian and I forgot about that when commenting. Thanks for the reminder.

@Betty I have spent time in the Atlantic Provinces and know that obtaining an abortion was much less of a hassle than here as I almost took a friend's daughter a few years ago.

Do you have legal protection for equal pay?

@Betty, @Gwendolyn2018 Those students from years ago would have made less money than men, had fewer rights in re to workplace sexual harassment, an impenetrable glass ceiling, blah blah blah. I get that as I experienced it and yet I don't see the allure of being a housewife. If history had recorded more of the accomplishments of women it might have made a difference. During WWII Rosie the Riveter changed the American workforce and proved that women were capable of doing traditionally jobs held by men and yet American society didn't change much permanently. Two steps forward for women then almost two steps back, it's a snail's pace at best and few women seem to be concerned.

@MizJ The pay inequity is about 0.89. Better than it used to be but not yet equal.

@Betty Better than the 77 cents on the dollar to your south but still wrong.

@MizJ I agree. Still much work to do to bring it up.