There is something very affirming when, as a heterosexual man, a woman is happy to confide in me about the best and the worst of her sex life.
I can relate, somewhat to that, as I have been the confidant of many platonic hetero female friends, about their past relationships with men, including their stories of rape and sexual molestation, because, I guess, they feel safe with me. But I haven't had them confide that sort of sexual history with me, as far as how men have rated with or been involved with them sexually in the past, as far as normal relationship sex. Probably because I am clear that I am not interested in hearing it and that it's not my business. I am fine hearing from them about the emotional business of their past romantic relationships with men, because listening to them and then them hearing my perspective on it, helps both me and the woman learn from their past, and also hopefully from making similar mistakes on our part in the future, with other partners.
How do you think your wife would feel about it?
My wife is privy to everything that happens between and that person. She is happy with what she sees. She has the confidence that I put her first.
P.S. I have a similar relationship with my wife's best woman friend, and that best woman friend's husband is perfectly happy with my relationship with his wife.
P.P.S. There are issues in my marriage, but my relationship with either of those two women is not one of them.
@anglophone Thank you for receiving my question in the spirit it was intended. I think the development of relationships may be the most important part of life so since everyone involved is on board, deriving satisfaction from this type of relationship is normal and healthy. As we as a society evolve out of a patriarchy, I think we are seeing new and less rigid types of relationships become normal and healthy. The more people you have in your life, the more positive influences are available to you. Keep up the good work!
You must come across as a very trustworthy person. I am good friends with a straight man, and we confide in each other about all of our intimate details, yet we are not involved in that way. It really helps to get a man's perspective on that. Enjoy your special friendship.