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CRYING! What has made you cry as an adult?

#crying #grief #love #loss
Brunnion 7 May 8
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The slaughter of those babies in their classroom at Sandy Hook elementary.

I kept it together at work, but came home sat down on the couch. My friend's dog jumped up and nestled her head under my arm and licked my face.

I took her in my arms and just cried like I hadn't in ages. I also raged and screamed.

Seeing the pictures of those precious faces still can make me misty eyed. They should be middle school students by now.

It makes me cry to 'hear' you relate it BB. Sometimes I think animals are the best at providing solace. Sending love xxx

@Abbelyne They do seem to be a salve at times.

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Level 6

I cried on inauguration day.

Right??? Best comment ever

with anguish and outrage?
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Level 8

Oy... How much time ya got?

Aaahhh....... you're a bit of a weepy one eh B? 😀

@Abbelyne Yeah, and proud of it.
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Level 8

Loosing friends in 911, loosing a friend to drug use, Parkland shooting, my dad dying of cancer, having to put my dog down.

My first grandchild, ending a 28 yr marriage, my mother's death, a couple broken hearts, driving through the Rockies, and giving my rescue cat back to her first family.

It seems wrong to 'like' your statement AA. Peace and love to you!

Sorry ....Mr. Ardent with time
some pain seems reduced
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Level 8

I cry everyday for my son, too. Fucking hate the world. It just keeps going on, as if it had any reason to do so.

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Level 9

Anything emotional.
Particularly memorable events are the night I defied the nurses after being shot and, after crawling out of my hospital room into the corridor, holding my bottle of drip, I clawed myself upright against a wall and then, in the dead of night, practiced stumbling along the wall, ignoring the pain, until at last I was able to walk across an 8 foot gap to a seat, where I was found crying - because I had taught myself to walk again - for the second time in my adult life.
However, hearing a grandchild has done well makes me well up, as does many an event from weddings to funerals.

SHOT!!! That does it........ I'm coming to get you.......... Spain is a dangerous place! Mon Dieu, it's hard to empathise ....... I'm too shocked!

@Abbelyne @Abbelyne This wasn't Spain - Where I live, in Mojacar, violence is a true rarity.
The being shot was in Kenya, and my would-be killer was a policeman (There's a bit about it on my profile)
However, Kenya was far less "eventful" than Uganda, where I lived during the final five years of Idi Amin's dictatorship. There, I saw some terrible sights and survived some pretty "hairy" moments. I've survived so many times when the odds were well stacked against me that I am quite philosophical about life.

@Petter You certainly are a survivor, P. How have you dealt with this much trauma? I remember refugees of Idi Amin's Uganda coming to UK. Glad you've found yourself a safe haven.

@Abbelyne I went to Kenya, then back to Uganda after he was ousted, and then back to Kenya as the Technical manager for Kenya, before becoming the Technical manager for the entire East and Central Africa zone. It was whilst I was back in Kenya that I got shot, in 1983.
I eventually left and went to Italy in 1987, before settling in Spain in 1988.
Having grown up with violence, I am reasonably inured. At the age of eleven a couple of elderly women living 150 yards away were attacked by a Mau Mau gang. One of them lost her wrist, cut off by a panga (the East African version of a machete.) as she tried to defend herself.
I grew up on farms, and from the age of two I had watched cattle being wrestled to the ground and having their throats cut, the blood being collected as they died, and then the cow being butchered. It all seemed natural to me. Death is an essential part of life, I suppose.

@Petter Reading your autobiography........

@Abbelyne Kick my arse a few times please. I haven't added to it for a year!

@Petter Lol I will when I've finished it and want to read some more 😀

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Level 9

The last Presidential election!

Oh yeah, I cried off and on all day about that. I just couldn't believe it.

Along with howling and gnashing of teeth ......... even as far away as Australia!

@seaspot_run Funny......they seemed to believe it in Russia!

@Abbelyne lol
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Level 8

I've had many reasons to cry. My Ex killed himself, my Mom died after falling and breaking her leg, My dog developed heart disease and had to put her down @ age10. The last 2 were last year, I'm still dealing with grief, I think I always will. I'm crying now.

Shocking trauma! More power to you, to cope CK xxx

@Bendog Oh he was beautiful, I also love animals. Here's my sweet Maggie. I have other dogs but losing her broke my heart. I wish you peace and love and puppy kisses.

@Bendog Is that Ben in the pic?

I don't know how we can get older without losing - and crying. Both parents gone, also my younger brother, and his son too. Plus several beloved kitties. There are days when I have tears just under the surface. Glad we have each other. And I still have one kitty, who is now 15.

@Bendog That's lovely B. I adopted Rollo under similar circumstances when he was about 2yo,and I had him for 12 yrs. Such a beautiful friend!

@Abbelyne He was a beautiful dog. I loved him!

...I'm sorry to hear each of these
burdens
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Level 5

Armed service men and women homecoming videos, suprising their loved ones.

blazm Level 5 May 8, 2018
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Level 7

Leaving my Grandmother's house. She had advanced ALS, she didn't have long to live. My leave was over & I had to go back home. I was never to see her again; when I realized this, I lost my shit.

So sad! 😟
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Level 8

A lot of things make me cry.

Jnei Level 8 May 8, 2018
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Well, I would say J, that you're one of the fortunate people who can identify their emotions and express them! More power to you! xxx

...thanks for sharing
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Level 7

So many things. But heartbreak has been by far the worst.

Yes, I'd sooner have physical pain any day.

Agreed. I'd take childbirth over heartache any day of the week.

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Level 7

Seeing my children hurt, and not being able to fix the cause. Sometimes, all you can do is hold on, and cry with them.

What a great dad you are DD! that's empathy at its best!

@Abbelyne you are very kind. Thank you!
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Level 7

Watching the Richard Gere movie "Hachi: A Dog's Tale". EVERY FREAKIN' TIME!

Awww........ you're a bit of a softie MH xxx
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Level 8

The first time I cried as an adult was over a young man from South Chicago.

George was a soldier in my platoon in training. He had joined the army to get away from crime, poverty, and violence. He wasn't a really smart person but tried very hard to learn the necessary skills and graduate. If he failed he would end up back where he came from.

I spent hours working with George. I explained things over and over and showed him what he needed to know. The night before our last "gate test" we were up until 2am practicing the hands on skills he had to perfect. George never complained, never got frustrated, and apologized profusely for every mistake.

During the test I stayed close and coached him and quizzed him until the last second before he had to demonstrate his proficiency in each task. He passed barely, but he passed and became a scout in a cavalry squadron.

We graduated from training on July 27, 1990, and went to separate posts. On August 2, Iraqi forces invaded Kuwait.

It wasn't until 4 years later that I learned that George was killed in Iraq. I cried because this guy worked his ass off to try to make it out of a shitty life. I also cried because of I hadn't helped him he would have failed, and if he had he wouldn't have been in Iraq. I cried because I contributed to his dying and he was fucking grateful for it.

JimG Level 8 May 14, 2018
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Level 7

The outrageous unfair and illegal treatment of the Palestinians by the Israelis and their American supporters. That's made me shed tears this evening.

.......and for good reason F......
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Level 8

The deaths of my pets - all of whom had grown quite old with me....its heartbreaking to lose them and is a reminder that we are all just passing thru....makes you have to think about your own mortality.

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Level 8

When I had to decide to put my dog down.

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Level 6

Certain songs from time to time have me well up. It's not always a guarantee, but the right song at the right time can have me crying.

Most times I just get chills and goosebumps, but take today for instance. I was listening to Tragic Overture by Brahms, and parts of the song has me all choked up and teary eyed.

I had to hold it back a bit as I was at work, but if I were to play it now, I don't feel the same way about it. It's odd...I'm odd...help me. 😛

Lol, yours is the only response that has made me laugh BW.......... and I really did laugh out loud. You've cheered me up 😀

@Abbelyne Glad I could give ya a good laugh. Made my day 🙂

@BeardedWonder You're priceless BW 😀
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Level 5

Delivering the eulogy at my mother's funeral 8 years ago and more recently reliving a very harrowing experience from my youth.

RonB Level 5 May 8, 2018
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Thank you for sharing these painful experiences Ron.
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Level 4
  • When my dad passed away.
  • When I realized that my mariage was going down the drain.
  • When my kids and grandkids where born.
Domal Level 4 May 8, 2018
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Yes emotions from both ends of the happiness scale cause the same response in us!
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Level 7

Many things. Mostly the love of my friends.

You're a fortunate man, LS!

Yes, I am. And I always remember that.
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Level 7

Graduating Basic Training, breaking up with my last girlfriend and dealing with my dad, who was charged for sexually assualting a child.

Stay strong RM......

Dealing with the conflict involved in supporting your dad must be very conflicting! Hang in there!

@Abbelyne trust me, we were not supporting him. I actually testified against him for the physical abuse he gave me as a child. He was charged with mulitiple accounts of sexually abusing children. 65 year sentence, with no parole, reduction or probation.

@RandyMoose 65 year sentence! Wow! Well RM, I hope you have support for yourself. Abuse as a child takes a long time to heal, resolve, work out........ I know from my own experiences. It's not just the direct results of the original abuse, but the fact of choosing partners in adulthood who are also abusers, that causes an on-going nightmare.
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Level 7

Being a chronic pain patient during an opioid epidemic

..sorry_do not let it win
would talk when needed
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Level 7

I can remember distinctly 4 times:

  1. When my dad passed away
  2. When my mom passed away
  3. When my daughter did something incredibly brave at school and I was there to witness it
  4. My first heartbreak

I'm glad that sometimes the happy events make the painful ones more bearable.....
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Level 7

When my amazing, wonderful, happy cat went missing last year. He was only 7. We were supposed to have so much more time together.
When I think about how I will probably have to put my old man cat down within the next year or so.
Lots of other things over the years due to boys, army BS, and work BS.

Remi Level 7 May 10, 2018
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Oh yes....... having a pet go missing sometimes seems worse than when they die. My cat disappeared 8 years ago (he wouldn't have wandered off)....... and I've spent all that time mulling over the endless possibilities of what might have happened to him 😟 Take care R
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