Some women like no fuss sex. Be smart, use protection, get tested regularly. Of course why it is anyone else's business is beyond me.

I agree with others that it's a matter of informed consent. I was just talking to a friend about how in the past, guys would go to such great lengths to get sex. Like, numerous dates where they have fun and get along and laugh and enjoy each other. Then he disappears after she finally sleeps with him. Like, such a waste. If you have that much fun together, AND get to have sex, yay.

So I like that in today's society, it's more acceptable to state what you want. That way, you can find somebody who wants the same thing, and don't have to make somebody sad. I've had one-night stands, though when I was younger. And yeah, I find the release actually a whole lot easier by myself, to be honest. Currently, I have no desire to so much as date, but do have one old flame that I have sex with sometimes but it's not like hookups. We had kids together about 30 years ago, so we are not strangers.

Anyway, blah, blah. How I feel about it is, I think it's a lot more honest than the whole thing I outlined above. And also, I don't find it to be mostly men. I mean, not that I've done in depth research, but as women are getting more and more equality, they're more and more empowered not to feel the push to marry, define themselves by having a man around. It's really freeing, I think, to be in a society where people can want what they want, present it honestly, and agree to it with someone else who wants the same thing.

I run a chat server; I can tell you even the girls are just as ok with casual sex

Don't judge but pretty much my entire sex life has consisted of one night stands and hooking up with friends. Sex is sex it's not a big thing you use protection you get tested regularly and you don't do stuff if it seems really dumb it's that simple

It's sex not a religious experience - dung beetles have sex - it's not a miraculous thing. If you don't like one night stands don't have one - it's really as simple as that but the act itself doesn't require anything more than the desire of two people - yes even strangers - to get it on.

When I was younger and between husbands, I experimented with "hooking up" just enough to determine that it was not for me. It seems to complicate life to an unnecessary degree. Definitely not worth the recreational sex. At this point in my life, I need there to be a generous element of trust and affection involved in a sexual relationship. That takes a while to cultivate. If I just want an itch scratched, I'm better at doing that for myself than any man I've ever met could do.

Casual sex feels empty and sad to me. I need to feel safe with a man to open up physically, mentally and emotionally.

Your feeling stems from your upbringing. As an old cadger I went to China and realised how people are far less complexed about sex; and not just men. Perhaps women with a healthy libido know how to orgasm more readily and more rapidly. Otherwise what would be in it for them.
I can understand your reticence, but try not to judge others.
I was frankly amazed when a lady gave me a sample of her abilty to have a double orgasm. For me is almost felt like a science experiment.
Just be yourself. ... Interesting comment proper holes (?) to penetrate

Some people like sex without all the social expectation that normally comes with it. This has been a fact of human life since always. The only thing that's changed is that the Internet makes it easier to arrange

Never had a problem with it. If it's two consenting adults whats the issue? I understand it's not for everyone but you have a choice in the matter. I think we as a country are so repressed sexually because of the overbearing presence of religious dogma that we deny ourselves many possibly beautiful and fulfilling experiences.

It's not just guys. Fortunately.

The world has changed, we are more open and honest now. OK I am a guy but have declined casual sex on a couple of occasion, but I have also been asked for casual sex numerous times as well. Not from strangers, from good friends. If anything it has improved the friendships.

I've never had a one night stand and I'm not starting now.

You speak a load of sense Sassy ! you are correct about such men, and I know from my youth hood from experience , they are using a woman simply as a vessel for their entertainment, once used they are generally dispensed with. I said the same thing to my daughter as she blossomed into womanhood. The only time to come out of the woodwork is with a chosen partner, that is well known to the woman, and in a love love situation....all other occasions, are certainly dangerous and severely lacking in self respect on the girls part. and should be equally shared as obnoxious by the user. [ dream on Alan it will never happen !! ]

you have a point. some people get off on fucking a stranger

I got my STD from my ex boyfriend.

As a large mammal, sex between humans is highly overrated in consequence. That said, I personally advise caution as to disease. Also personally, I don't perform well with relative strangers.

Only done that once, don't recommend it. Three date rule!

Not my cup of tea. Never had a 1 night stand. I'm a hopeless romantic type, so if we're going at it, its because there are feelings.

I never made it a point to do that as a matter of intent; nonetheless, it happened a couple times. I think it's just circumstantial at times, both people wanting the same thing at a particular point in time; very spontaneously with no fore or after thought as to any permanency. It was kind of a beautiful thing, actually. Though, admittedly, I don't know that the young women felt the same way.

When I was young, I did that a few times, and found out how unsatisfying it was. Haven't been interested in hooking up since.

I have nothing against one night stands, despite their frivolous nature. And STDs are now a very real issue. However, living that way for any length of time is pointless. I’d sooner just be alone if I can’t have this that and the other thing. There’s more to women and relationships then just sex.