My "daughter" is turning 15 today, she recently told me that she feels transgender so I'll complete the rest of this post referring to her as he. I'm still struggling with saying he instead of she! We've had a long talk and because he's doing gcse's next year and in a Catholic school we're going to wait till he's done with that to start hormone treatment. Is there anyone out there currently on treatment or a parent to someone in treatment, can you tell me what it's all about? I'm trying to get him to join some online support groups, I think it will be good for him to have someone who understands how he feels? No matter how much he talks to me I'll never just get it like someone who is going through the same process.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.My sympathies to you. I live in Cardiff Wales. Having supportive people is probably very important and he has you. If ever you just wanted someone to message to and offload or help to find info etc. feel free to message me.
Treasurehunter
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May 10, 2018
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One curious piece of advice I heard from someone else going through this. It sounds strange but I've heard that it can be therapeutic to hold a funeral for your daughter. No doubt you'll love your new son just as much as the daughter you used to know but it makes sense that there should be a sense of loss which should be acknowledged and processed. Your mileage may vary as they say.
MattHardy
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May 10, 2018
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@Josephine Fair enough. As I said your mileage may vary. Just thought your should be aware for your own sake as well as for other family members including your son that a sense of bereavement somewhere down the line is not unusual. Here's an an article that discusses a similar situation. [huffingtonpost.com]
Best of luck to you both.
Good advice to search and research LGBTQ groups and communicate with professionals. Just wondering if both of you have spoken to a physician before making a decision to go to hormone therapy? Not my business, you don't need to answer of course, but from my experience, it's more than just one office visit especially for a fifteen-yr old? Perhaps in the UK this issue is addressed more easily than in the US. Whatever happens, all the best to both of you.
ThinkKate
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May 10, 2018
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@Palacinky thanks. My concern was with the way she seemed so easy with gong right to medicinal treatment before doing additional research. Perhaps i read it wrong, but wanted to express my concern. My experience is more heavily weighted towards teens than LGBTQ, but I know that the 13 - 18 age is too turbulent to just make any physical change on a whim. Not that this is, but every parent needs to communicate, and every teen needs to make sure before taking action that is irreversible, at least in my humble opinion.
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