Have you thought of setting up an 'Older Women and Younger Men' section on agnostic.com?

A place of respect - no mention of cougars, cubs or toyboys. I'd join it.

Age is right up there with race in my book. I giveth not one shit.

Most men wouldn't have a problem with it. Ultimately we just want to be happy, same as you.

"Older" is a relative term. Older than dirt? Older than me? Older than someone who can't name the four Beatles, much less the "fifth" one? Age is mostly just a state of mind, in my opinion. But if you get to the point of being older than my mom... well... let's just say thay I'll be happy to come by on Sundays to the piano for you in the lobby of the Senior Living Community. ?

I know of three couples where the man is younger than the woman.

One is a friend of mine. His wife is 17 years older than him. Another is a friend's brother whose wife is 20 years older. They've been together over two decades. The other is a couple on social media. Again, the man is 20 years younger.

In real life it happens. But not in our media.

Some of the best connections that I have ever had was with older women. There is a great mix of beauty, character and experience in older women that is relatable and sexy and for me that almost always makes it more than just a physical attraction.

Dating older women is awesome.

I've had relationships with older women and it's usually went pretty well.

My soon to ex-wife was 10 years older than me. It's really based on connection for me.

I like women to be a little older than me. Young ones are often too immature.

I'm 31. the past few times i've attempted dating have been at least a 3-7 year gap with me being on the young end. i relate to older women more because i'm far more matured, emotionally than most guys my age.. where it seems to fail is the sexual chemistry aspect. more often than not i'm left with far more drive and kink than my older lady friends. not saying that's a characteristic of all women in that age group (35-41) or so, just my experience.. seems like i'm going to be settling in one department or another, either emotional or physical connection

I've dated much older and much younger. It's all good.

WEll, as a (much) older man of 82, I date gals in my age group. As long as they seem healthy and reasonably fit, I feel good about it.

Gee, France' s first lady is 17 years older than her hubby.

As I have seen women that I loved and lusted after in my youth bear the marks of growing older, I have come to this conclusion:

What I find truly beautiful about a woman is not susceptible to the ravages of time.

I am no longer interested in a woman based on her fertility capacity. I am interested in kindness, wisdom, a thirst for life, and a willingness to make the most of what time she has left.

Just for reference, I am 56, and the three most desirable women in my life are 52, 57 and 47.

As far as physical relationships go, I want a woman who knows what she's doing. I don't have time to train a 20-something.

Well, how much older?
At 68 I'd say probably not.
At 40, maybe.
Is she really rich?

Hard to find many women older than me. But I have craved the affections and friendship of quite a few.

I have only dated a couple of ladies younger than myself. I have had 4 actual relationships, ie mutually exclusive, they were all older by between 13 months and 3 years. I set my desired age range at 5 years either side, but hey, it the rght lady came along, age is irrelevant.

Older or younger. I've never been very age specific.

Strictly speaking, younger women can be a seen as more attractive to many males for aesthetic reasons.This is an enormous generalisation,with millions of mind bogglingly beautiful exceptions.

However same age to older by say 10 years can be much more sexually compatible in many ways. And definitely mentally more stimulating..again with millions of exceptions.

There are so many exceptions that it comes down to the two individuals involved in personal taste.

Many men talk about young slim women in the locker rooms of the world..but privately fantasize about curvy older women.

I hope this helps.

How do I feel having a relationship with an older woman...... I am 54, at my age what I want/need is companionship, support (emotional not financial), conversation, enjoy each other's company, same intetest, go to the movies because both want to see the same stuff, simple things like that and most importantly, compatibility so we both bring out the best on us (this must be a two way street). I wouldn't like a relationship with a younger woman with needs to party, it wouldn't be fair for her. I have been looking for this and so far no luck. Either I have been looking in the wrong places or this is more difficult than what it seems....

Why would you even ask? Just do it. Women age better than men usually, so if they go for younger men, so be it.

At my age time seems more precious; not as meant in the usual way. To reach a level in friendship that qualifies for sexual intimacy still requires time. I am drawn to women of strong character/integrity who know and love who they are. And that is just for getting acquainted.

There is little time to repeat errors of anxious, impetuous youth. Especially regarding something as commonly available as 'casual sex'. Borrrring.

An old Swedish proverb, in a way, illustrates the difference between it and bonded sexual intimacy wherein total trust and surrender are involved. But it applies to another emotion altogether.

"Shared sorrow is half sorrow. Shared joy is double joy."

Am I saying casual sex, an activity in which we borrow and trade is unpleasurable? Hardly... It is, however less than half of the promise Nature holds out from sharing.

Most women, not all, at my age, but for a few of those widowed have given up seeking that level and if they've never known it, gave up long ago.

Also because of precious time, I don't care for very young women because ANYTHING in common or commonly understood is rare. Time required to explain isn't worth it. They are young enough to learn for themselves.

Women, really get a worse hand dealt because they mature early, seem to lose a lot of interest and trust (for good reasons) earlier and my sex dies earlier. The few left are largely arrested at 20, still chasing hard bodies, with a Hell of a lot les$ to trade on.

I know you're looking for a male perspective but I thought I'd throw in my three cents. I'm all about the connection no matter the age and I shirk away from generalizations. However, I thought you may appreciate the answer Dan Savage gave to a woman who was worried about the long-term viability with her relationship with a much younger man, and if she should tell him to go. Most particularly, she was worried that her sexual appetite would diminish before his:

"Stop worrying about how you're going feel a quarter of a century from now.

Things that are important to you at 50—like having your ass fucked on the regular—may not be so important to you at 75.

Your boyfriend could predecease you and you could wind up spending your final years alone—or, hey, you could die together in a fire or a car wreck or a plane crash or chariot fisting scene gone tragically wrong. We Catholics call that, "Looking on the bright side."

Your boyfriend could be done with sex at 50—a chronic medical condition or anti-depressants or carbs could crater his libido—and you could be the one banging hot fuckbuddies on the side."