I once said that my post was for "ladies only," since it was about their opinions of men's behavior on dates, and was immediately attacked by a woman for using the term "ladies."

I kept asking what term was OK to use, and the only one that wasn't nixed was "woman."

This is difficult for me to grasp, since I resemble a normal, cis female but I don't identify with either gender. I don't mind being referred to by either female or male pronouns, but neither gender label seems to have anything to do with my self-identity.

For that reason, I appreciate cis women telling me what gender labels make them feel comfortable, since I can't speak from the perspective of a "fellow woman."

All my life, I felt puzzled that I felt a flash of rage whenever anyone used a female pronoun or label for me. I also choked back anger whenever someone used my female name. After I realized I'm a partial transmale, in 2014, I understood why..my male side was outraged at being mislabeled as a GURL.

I discovered that a common Thai herb, derris scandens, found here in Thailand but also sold on Amazon and eBay, blends my male and female gender modes into a blended androgyne personality that accepts both gender sides, and doesn't take offense at gender labels anymore.

But I still love it when my ex, who came out as nonbinary female in 2016, calls me by my chosen male name and says things like, "How are you doing, man?.
I also call her by female pronouns and her chosen female name, because I understand how it feels.

You know what it seems today that there are so many people in this world who can find away to take offence at anything, everything and everybody.
It must so bloody gruelling for them being that sanctimonious, negative and volatile all day everyday.
Chill out, eat a Mars bar and watch something funny on the googlebox, you'll feel better for it I promise.