I have a relative who frequently has a fake ads conversation with me before asking for money. I got fed up with it after I sent her some tools for a job she got with a contractor. She immediately lost her job and I put about $500 worth of tools in. I had sent her money several times in the past because I cared for her. I spoke with her the last couple of times but decided I just did not need that in my life. She will go on and on about her problems and then every now and then she will ask how I am doing. My son has a terminal illness and I have my own atuff going on here, but I am constantly on the other end of her ordeal with a check in my hand. I was finished when I got notified that she hacked my Wal-Mart account where I would pay for things for her to pick up at the in store pick up. She has pushed all 3 of her brothers away doing the same thing, with drama she creates. Now she has sent a message asking me if there is a reason I haven't responded. I don't know what to say. I kind of want to lay into her, but I kind of just want to Let it go and go on with my life and keep her cut out.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Cut her loose before she drains you financially and emotionally.
sassygirl3869
Level 9
May 17, 2018
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@ShellyBean That's a tough call for someone like you. From what I know of you, you're a pretty giving person (as evidenced by what you've already done for her). Sometimes the hardest thing to say is "no". But, it does sound like this person is toxic and you really do just need to tell her you've done far more than you should for her. Explain that you've stretched your own finances farther than you're comfortable with to help her at this point. Anything more puts too much of a strain on your budget.There comes a pint when you have to not worry about how she'll react. No matter how you put it to her, she's going to probably either get pissed or hurt feelings over it. You have let yourself be okay with that. If you don't, she's going to continue to try to use you. Sounds like the rest of the family has already been pushed to that point.
Duke
Level 8
May 17, 2018
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don't be angry but just tell her how you feel and that you are done. you can't choose your family.
LeighShelton
Level 8
May 17, 2018
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@ShellyBean I understand that but why become angry as it only hurts you. kick her to the curb and move on my love.
Screw it, say your piece and then block them. Sounds like you went above and beyond. Life is too short to deal with unnecessary negativity
MrBrightSide
Level 5
May 17, 2018
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Cut your ties, you need to take care of yourself.
GeorgeRocheleau
Level 8
May 17, 2018
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Do you feel this is a reciprocating relationship? If you feel that it is and that she is equally involved in the interests of your life, then you should continue in it with the same vigor. If you feel as though she continually leeches off you and/or you are emotionally spent after your interactions with her, then you should sever the relationship in the sense that you are spending your emotionally energy as well as your financial resources to further your relationship with her. Good luck with whatever path you choose. At this point, it's your decision.
SamHarrisFan
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May 17, 2018
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