Having known a man who was the king of drama I kind of get it. Boring and bland does not do it for me, but a hour long performance over the fact that somebody put a slice of tomato in your hamburger when you clearly said you didn't want it is equally off putting. Something in between because "no drama" is taking it to an extreme, right up there with "no baggage" (didn't they have a life previously), or anybody that trots out "down to earth, good sense of humour"
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"No baggage", "no drama" usually means they've had a bad experience in the past and they don't want it again. Or it could also mean they don't want to have to care about anyone.

Your definition of drama is very different from mine. For me drama means needy, high maintenance, and overreacting to every little problem. The inability to let things go. No, l don't want or need that in my life, EVER!

I think what they're trying to say is that they aren't interested in your problems, don't care about your concerns, and don't want to be burdened by anything that doesn't affect them directly.

Read "No Drama" as "It's all about me."

I agree with what you said, but I think there are varying definitions of drama... when it comes to passion? Yes, please! What is life without it? When it comes to unnecessary distress and upheavals due to lying and misrepresentation? No, thank you! I find with the latter, those who say they don't want that in their lives tend to be the biggest perpetrators of it!

In this context, I think they mean needless, emotionally charged involvement in things better left alone. Like gossip, frienemies, pointless arguments, and generally starting/talking sh!t with or about others. At least, that's what it means to me...

For me that means "no crisis" so I should explain that too. For some people everything is a crisis, like getting stuck in traffic for 2 minutes, or the hamburger is cooked medium rather than medium rare. And these particular incidents throw the person into trauma that takes a dramatic turn into a full blown drama worthy of the worst B movie ever. But I also know that there are men out there that "no drama' means you aren't supposed to ever get mad at them, question them in any way or disagree with them. Sometimes it just takes a while until you see where their scale of "no drama" lies.

Drama as it's usually referred to in relationships is shorthand for "bad drama". The dysfunctional, the unnecessary, the "extra", the psycho, immature, irrational, blowing things out of proportion.

No "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf", been there and done that.

I don't have that tagline in my bio, but I think when people use it they don't mean they don't want to engage or want to be with a completely dispassionate person. I think it means they have had relationships in the past where their partner had numerous issues, perhaps was extremely needy, high-maintenance, or had other negative emotional problems. I agree with your "definition" of drama (through my kids, who are both involved in musical theater, I have been drafted. LOL!). =]

I agree. When I see "no drama" that says to me that the person doesn't really want to engage in any meaningful way.

No drama to me would mean they don't want a person in the middle of a contentious divorce. Or with major family issues, either children, parents, or siblings. Or it could mean drug or alcohol issues. In other words, in the middle of the plots of your average soap opera. Dram as entertainment is far more interesting than drama in real life.

I think the No Drama phrase in this case suggests the individual is without emotional baggage and easy to get along with. Yes, a relationship without drama in the theatrical social context would be a very boring relationship. No BS ?

Life comes with drama so I get your point. It is those people who create unnecessary drama that are best avoided.

Definition 5 at [en.wiktionary.org]
To wit, interpersonal relationship problems, issues, and crises that are contrived by a particular person.

Some people do not stop bringing turmoil to the meeting table. I would consider that " drama "
Move on and find the path of least resistance , with kindness in your heart. .

Just tell them go buy a sex doll, you heard they have no drama.

I find theatre seats uncomfortable.

Drama means family problems,dysfunctional families, homeless, unemployed, emotionally needy.

"Drama" by AJR

No drama to me equates to not blaming your emotional baggage on others. But by your perception I'm LOADED with Drama.

Thanks so much everyone for your thoughts and feedback! It's funny how 2 little words can mean such different things to so many different people. what I've learned from y'all is to avoid anyone who uses "no drama" without explaining it, because they are most likely looking for something superficial

Wow, I didn't realize so many people have so many different understandings of what drama means in the context of dating/relationships.

You can never avoid drama altogether. However, personally, I find his site has a lot less of it than other sites, simply because more people here choose to use reason and logic in conducting their lives.