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I feel the need to call bullshit on the "No Drama" tagline I've seen on dating sites, and here, in the last few years. It comes from men and women (but mostly men, cuz those are the profiles I look at.)

What does "No Drama" mean to you? To me drama = excitement, adventure, passion, fun, interactive, strong emotion, change, and a bunch of other positive things. Of course, I'm a theater geek. I would be happy to have those things in a friendship or in a relationship.

What I'm NOT looking for in a friend or partner is someone with no drama, because to me that means no opinion, no passion, fear of engaging, fear of change/upheaval, unwillingness to argue/disagree. Is that honestly what YOU want? A life with no highs and no lows?

Supercali 6 May 19
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Drama in this case means no baggage.The tendisy to bring your problems from the past with you is a problem in itself !

but our problems and our past help make us who we are. we can't help but bring this with us.

@Supercali
But please don't inflicked it on others ?

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I suppose we should define what we mean by ‘no drama’. My definition (in the case) is:

No pointless arguing, an adult discussion is better.
No over emotional irrationality.
No making mountains out of molehills.

KenG Level 6 May 19, 2018
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To me it refers to making mountains out mole hills, in a relationship. If one person is 5 minutes late making a phone call and the other person freaks out and demands a detailed explanation, etc. That is drama.

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Plenty of highs,as little lows as possible. Would suit me just fine.

Coldo Level 8 May 19, 2018

obviously that would suit most people (me too). human being are all about choosing the most pleasurable and least painful outcomes.

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Surprised how many think of it completely different than I have, always thought it meant negative drama, meaning they are not interested in someone with unresolved issues with family, exes, addiction, or mental illness. Or someone who likes to blow small things out of proportion or enjoys conflict. That's drama to me.

I like your use of unresolved.

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The first thing you seeing of me is my back, walking away from your drama. I barely can hear you now.... now, Peace.

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