I come from a family of bigots.
My friends at high school, one was gay the other chinese, my first girlfriend after leaving school was a pacific islander my family just didn't want to know them, or me for that matter. I just go from bad to worse in their opinion.
I think I may have run out of things to shock them.

As we get older we get really tired of children not respecting toilets.

We want them to be clean. We want the room to be litter free.

Is this so wrong?

Depends if she has had the same view when she was younger. It’s hard to say. I could agree that some people as they get older could be more ranty and picky over things. But not sure...hmm.

I lot of people harbor racist tendencies. Most white people I know never deal with racism, or talk about it at all.

Many white folks feel it's just impolite to say negative things even if they are true. As people get older, they care less about being polite. So they start saying what they think it's true.

Dementia?

How old is your mom? Do you think this could be a sign of some mental decline? Do you think she has become more fearful in general? This must be very upsetting to you.

As we age brain tissue deteriorates and inhibitions are lowered.