Never thought of this in the front of my head, but does the fact that we call asking someone for sex "hitting on" them not say a lot of terrible things about what we believe about sex?
Sex is sometimes uncomfortable to discuss about even if you're in a relationship, so it's no surprise to me that it's a difficult subject to talk about in a casual situation. It's so much easier to objectify it when there's less of an emotional connection. If it's a conversation with someone I'm closer to or more serious with, it's still a delicate subject but it's handled with more tact and sensitivity.
I've always interpreted the phrase "hitting on" as being someone who makes sexual advances without the other's consent. Perhaps the term "hitting" is inappropriate, but I do believe that the implication of being unwanted or unsolicited is apparent, imho.
Lots of language links between sex and aggression, behavioral ones as well. It's not terrible, just human. Consensual rough sex is pretty popular and I don't see that changing or any problem with people living the life they enjoy if it doesn't infringe on others.
Sex is a natural thing. Think about it... If it wasn't good for us, it wouldn't feel so good. Grabbing a glowing ember from the fire is not good for us. Drinking a tall glass of cool water when we're thirsty is good for us. I could go on but I think you get the idea.
sex is such a dirty word that people don't want to talk about but nearly everyone does, did or will do willingly and happily. I don't get the big deal about when you do it or who with or any of that rubbish. if you both want to then you should.
OMG sad. And sadly relevant for me right now. Broke up with a once-friend a while ago and now rarely hang out with him because he wants sex. It's all he wants. And I do feel like I'm being hit-on in a heavy-handed way. There's no way around it except to cut him off totally.
The only reason an otherwise decent person thinks this kind of behavior is okay is because the society at large condones it.
good but all too real post.
Your question doesn't make sense. Please clarify.
Maybe I'm tired.
@SallyMc, Thank you for confirming my experience. I agree with you.
I guess I never thought about it before. There are times that I'd rather be hit, though.
@Bierbasstard Not kink. That was a tongue-in-cheek remark about how it can sometimes be easier to take a punch than to listen to oily, insincere pick-up lines from men who just want sex.
@Bierbasstard Yes, I understand your meaning now. For many there is little difference. Abuse is abuse.