for me....it's not about the length of the hair, but who it's attached to.

I've been ghosted for saying I prefer coffee to weed.

People are weird and fickle

I got rejected because of height. I'm 5' 10" so I'm not exactly short, probably average. But a lot (not all) of the women wanted guys that were well over 6' so they could wear their 5 inch heels and still be shorter than their man!!! In my estimation, that's a very shallow woman no matter how tall she may be in heels. It's a good way to dodge a bullet when they give you all you need to know

Not sure what it is with older men and long hair, but when I asked my former significant other to name something he actually liked about me, my hair was the answer, though he would prefer my hair to be blonder. Everyone has their image they are seeking, I guess. I had hoped he liked something of my personality.

Years ago I was on a dating site and an interested male's first question was "how much do you weigh?" I was fairly fit and weight proportionate, and tried to show that in my photos, but that question turned me off. Wow - hair length and body weight can change, but a shallow personality not so much!

I got one asking if I had freckles. Total message: hi do you have freckles(sic). I didn’t even answer, though I want to be sarcastic at them. I don’t give in to the temptation, because I’m not giving them ANY attention.

Good question. If I were on the dating scene, I would be looking much more for communications that show intelligence, warmth, humor, and common values.

It sounds to me like you may have dodged a bullet.

while it would make me feel weird I think it would be a favor. If thats all it take to run he probably would have never come near me.

Be thankful for the lucky escape

It is a preference in the same way that perhaps blue eyes v brown, slim v not so slim, tall v short or intelligent being v an idiot-in-charge supporter, could be deal breaker's for someone! Everyone has an idea of what is attractive to them. Although, having said that, I think we have been brainwashed into thinking that a woman's worth is determined by her hair length (I have nothing against long hair by the way.) As a woman who has had short, grey/white hair for the last 6 years this has been my observation; I have had 3, yes 3, positive comments in 6 years from older white dudes, (what's up with that older white dudes?) young people across all cultures and races love it, but I get the most comments (complimentary) from African American men and older white women (who have told me that they wish they were brave enough to wear their hair the same way.)

I was once berated for shaving. Apparently, appearances are more important than personality to some.

Not got a clue really. Maybe he had a hair fettish?

It isn't, although it obviously was for him

Shallow asshole, you did well to be rid of him.

People just like what they like.

He was most likely a controlling ass. I had a guy try to get me to cut my hair short before I even met him. I was like no, I don’t grow OR cut my hair for anyone but me.

I don't think it should be, that said I think he is shallow!

It's not a deal breaker. I think you're asking why it was a deal breaker for him, which in such case your guess is as good as anybody else

I doubt it is a deal breaker for most men but older generations were programmed to believe women should have long hair. I bet long hair on a man would be a deal breaker for some women too.

When I was new to the game, a partner told me I should grow my bob cut out again because "Guys prefer long hair on their women." To which I explained that no one would ever own me. I never really understood how something as simple as a haircut could make someone write you off completely. Glad I experienced that lesson early on!

Because everyone had their own vision of how they Wan their mate to be. It doesn't mean that all of us are so inflexible on something like hair though. However everyone had the right to be picky if they so choose. Seems it would make life difficult for no reason.

There are two kinds of people in the world; those who are completely unaware of their fetishes and those who know and embrace theirs. We all have them whether we admit it or not. This guy had a thing for long hair and no interest in short hair. I have pics up of me with very long and very short hair and I get disappointment when I reveal that I cut it. Some women have a thing for older men and others think 'dad/grandpa?', Ewww! Feet, hands, tickling, large or small breasts, tall or short, lithesome or BBW.

I have a fetish for a bare womens back which I find very erotic. Go figure.

Summit to hold on to

Some men are really hung up about hair length on women. Avoid those men.

I'm just thinking about Princess Diana. She had a horrible hairstyle in the 80s but one day she had it cut short and it transformed her. Some women suit short hair.

Have it how you want it. If it's a deal breaker for some men, then do you really want to date those men?

I'd say you are fortunate in not pursuing that fellow.