I know marriage scares me the thought about wedding going on is so lovely , having someone that loves you is also lovely , but then in real life scenarios , Marriage is more than the wedding and love it self it takes Alot

For me marriage is a contract to address the issues of end of life decisions, estate planning, inheritance, taxes, credit score, income, & child bearing. The last item I for one was never interested in. Love ends up on the shit pile so I would never marry for love.

If your mate lies to you run away it will just get worse!

My oldest son have been with his partner for over 20yrs without marriage. I did ask him once if they every planned to get married and he replied "Why mess up a good thing".

I, however have been married three times. It will have to be an extra special person to convince me to do that again.

Never have, never will.

Marriage means very little but on the other hand if you want to have kids and the other party thinks marriage is too big a commitment, run, unless you are happy to raise them by yourself. You can get a divorce you can't un have kids.

I suggest you live together for a minimum of 2 years. Just my recommendation to anyone.

at my age I think I pass

The only reason for marriage is if it works out better financially. Or for medical decisions on each other. For us who are older marriage can be detrimental to your finances.