I'm not a complainer. And I don't have much appetite for a ton of somebody else's. There's just more interesting stuff to talk about.

Yes, I consciously don't complain (too often). And it's no fun being around a complainer.

It is hard to hear because we absorb the complainers negativity but everyone does it from time to time. if you are open to hearing someone trying to help you by lifting the mood or presenting some bright side, then it is easier to deal with. some complainers never want to hear a bright side. those are the worst to be around. i try to be someone i wouldnt mind having to listen to.

My daughter taught me to try to look at some positive aspect of any situation. It's not easy, and it doesn't always work, but it's energy invested into something other than complaining. People who always complain tend to blame everyone for their problems and not consider their own part in the path to resolution. People who think like that are never happy. And I do try to steer clear of them. Good on you for looking for the positive in the face of adversity. Not easy. Highly commendable.

I have a friend that gave me a great motto. Can complain, choose not to. I think of that often

I seldom complain. When I find something distasteful or troublesome enough, I say so, along with the grounds for the statement. That is not a complaint, but an assertion and a search for a solution for the distasteful event or act. I don't complain. I try to cvorrect the problem or leave the situation.

I probably complain more than I recognize. Hell, I work with a guy that complains about everything constantly, so relative to him, my own complaining is minuscule. However, that situation may cloud my own interpretation of any complaining that I may or may not actually do. For example, my level of complaining may be greater than 10 randoms of this site complaining, but I may not recognize that due to the lack of exposure.

Oh yes, I am well aware of the amount I complain. Not making any effort to stop it. Its one of my hobbies. As my wife says "I wouldn't be happy if I had nothing to complain about"

Some people accuse me of being negative but a few tell me I'm so good at making humorous complaints that they don't mind. I really don't care very much what people think anymore.

I have a lot of compassion for complainers, having been one myself. Usually people who complain are overwhelmed by lots of fears and things that are not in their control. I've been able to let go and focus on the things that are important and try not to worry about the little things. A lot of things I've come to understand have their own way of working out.

I think this is the key. Understanding how pain is relative frames the narrative and makes it easier to digest.

The problems start however, when some people, who instead of wanting better for themselves, insist on everyone else suffering more. Those types are easy to spot.

Sometimes people complain about little things maybe bc it feels safer or just where their focus is at that moment. anyway, lots of star outside tonight

I complain a lot about people that complain a lot. Aren't they just the worst?

I rarely complain because nobody is interested.

I try to only complain when it can directly affect a future outcome. For example, I am getting shitty service or I don't like what my elected officials are doing. Any other complaining is disempowering not only to you, but the others around you. I have people like this if at all possible.

I try not to complain but sometimes a subject comes up and I then have to give an explanation that sounds very much like complaining.
It all starts when someone asks me what I do for a living.

I would like to think that I am conscious, however that's for everyone else to say

I can absolutely relate!
I have had daily struggles for most of my life. I am a chronic pain sufferer and I've caught myself complaining on tougher days, but daily, I don't think I complain much.
I'm even a little annoyed when friends, who know I suffer, keep asking me how I am. I'll tell ya how I'm feeling, but I would prefer to just get on with what's important. How I'm feeling isn't really going to get better, and certainly not by talking or complaining about it.
I work with a complainer, and he annoys the crap out of me!

I am not big on complaining. If someone has legitimate complaints or is just annoyed and is venting that’s fine. But if they are constant(my head hurts, my back hurts, I’m tired - periodic complaints) my opinion is that they are looking for attention.

For me it's balance. If they are working to find a solution and they are just venting frustrations, then ok, but if they are just complaining to get attention, then naw, it's a mess and I cannot handle that.

To me complaining uses negative energy to produce even more negative energy. Instead of contributing to bettering a situation, it only makes it worse - no matter what has happened to someone. And there are very few people who escape hardships and difficulties in their lives. Pretty much a human condition.
It also brings anyone around the complainer down. For those that complain often, their health can be effected, as well as healing after an injury.

I simply see no good coming from it ...

Nobody likes being around someone who complains all the time. I try to never complain, even though I have legitimate reasons to. I try my best to make the world a better place, and I'm never gonna stop the rain by complaining.

If I can do it without demeaning a person, I like trying to lighten the mood if possible.

You'd be surprised how often, "Oh, give the baby his bottle!" is the proper response.

If a person just needs a healthy vent, I'm fine with that. If they insist on you being a part of that drama, not so much.

I like to add following my tales of woe, no matter how trivial, "No one in the entire history of humanity has ever suffered as much as I have."

1. i know how much i complain. i try to do it to the people who can do something ABOUT my complaint, or to someone who will acknowledge my feelings and comfort me. sometimes that person is myself.

2. no one likes people who complain excessively. however, not every has the same threshold. complaining when appropriate and complaining excessively, and to the wrong people, are not the same thing.

3. i have issues too, and am disabled as well. however, when i complain it is often about injustice, and for the purpose of ending the injustice. thinking happy thoughts doesn't get things done.

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