"Open heart-open mind" has been my modus operandi for years. Being vulnerable can result in feeling disappointed and hurt. I refuse to become bitter and jaded.

Yesterday at the Democrat barbecue, I sat across from an older friend. She introduced me to her son John, 63, sitting beside her. Immediately he turned on the charm.

"Great!" I thought. "John is handsome, fit, not wearing a wedding ring and a Democrat."

We talked for 30 minutes during dinner and later, standing on the grass in the shade as candidates gave speeches.

"You are very fit," he said repeatedly. John asked to go hiking with me. I said yes.

Good old Google. When I got home, I looked up John. He's married. He and his wife won an award in 2018 for growing superior organic fruits.

With online dating, married men lie about being single to get laid. What happened? Did John's marriage slip his mind?

Although I feel disappointed, this will pass. Your thoughts?