I've never been married so I can't speak from experience, but here's how I think I'd respond in your stead: “I want to have a close relationship with your mother and I really do feel close to her, but ‘Mom’ is reserved for the woman who spent so many years providing for me and caring for me and bringing me up to be the man I am today. I mean no disrespect, but I'm just not comfortable calling anyone else ‘Mom.’”

I called her Linda her real name was Marie. I just liked fucking with her.

Dead now, but I only called her by her first name. She wanted to be “Mom,” but I never felt the emotional tie.

I posted about this yesterday, but on reflection now she has been dead since 2004, I think I will give full vent to what I feel, and call her what I wanted to when she was alive. OLD BAG!! Wow that felt good! ? ?

Being called Mom by someone not related is a super high honor imo and has to feel right to both.
I would never insist on such a thing in that position but that's me.

I always knew when my mother in law was visiting. The mice used to throw themselves on the traps.

JABBA the hut in private

Dead

I used to call her mom, even after our divorce. She was a very kind and caring woman.

It’s ok to call more than one person mom, but it’s up to you to do what feels right to you. If it’s not genuine, you shouldn’t be pressured to call her that. If there is some other nickname that you both feel comfortable with, maybe ther is a compromise to be made, but first names should be fine.

I won’t say how I referred to my former MIL ?.

Mama Toni. She died when our daughter was eight. That was a relief.

A narcissistic, critical and controlling women, we never let her babysit our daughter.

"You are not family," she told me. Cruel.

1st name seems to be the way to go here anything that makes you uncomfortable should not be up for discussion

Dead! She has been gone quite a few years now, but she was the coldest of women when she was alive. I called her mother when she was alive as that is what my husband called her. My own mother was always Mum.

My mom calls her mil mom. So does my aunt.

Its just the way my family is.

Dead. When she was still alive, I called her Virginia and Mom. Loved that woman a bundle and a half.

Before, during, and after the marriage, I called her and my father-in-law by their first names.

My mother-in-law has always been Judi - don't give 2-sh@ts what anyone feels about it. It used to be Mrs. Gagnon - we reached a compromise. I have one mom and I have no intention of assigning anyone else that title - don't give 2-shits what my in-laws think about it.

I call her by her name, or Grammy in relation to my kids.

2 legged snake? I was physically forced to give her a hug during "My Daughter Celebration of her Life". I always been True to my Feelings... No Sugarcoat! It is Personal!

I've never been married, but I call my exes parents by their first names. I never felt close enough to them to call them mom and dad.

I’ve always been happy to call mine Mom. She’s pretty damn awesome.

I don't have one (and don't want one!), but I had a cousin who didn't get along with the mom-in-law. The nicest thing he came up with was either "malicious old dragon" or "adipose harridan who broke every broomstick she tried to ride." Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that they didn't get along?

When I was married I called her by her first name once and my husband laughed and laughed at me. I thought I got her name wrong! Apparently I was supposed to call her Mrs. So-and-so. Um, no - I was not comfortable with that so I just avoided addressing her in any way for 20 years lol.

In the beginning , if I was speaking with my boyfriend , I'd say , your Mom . Or if speaking to someone else , his Mom . Occasionally , by her name . By the time we'd separated , I was working at purging her from my mind altogether . I can remember later , when I found out she'd died , sitting at my desk singing in my mind , "Ding dong the witch is dead , which old witch , the wicked witch ."
I hereby apologize to all witches . I actually enjoy witches . They are wise , intelligent , and often self educated .

Since my mom passed away, I asked my mother-in-law if I could call her Mom. I know she is not my real Mom, but it makes me feel closer to her,