Uuummm, it is 2018, not 1888....

There is no hard and fast rule in long term relationships. Whatever works for each couple, in some cases man is the main breadwinner, some cases the woman, and in most cases nowadays both contributing financially. The cost of running a home and raising a family is so high in our modern society that unless one party in the relationship has a high income, it is not possible for one of them to stay at home. When I got married in 1973 things were vastly different and it was quite normal for wives to stay at home to raise the children when they were infants.....I did this, however I think it would be impossible to manage on one income today.

Note to men. You may not always be with your children as they grow up. But remember, they have a right to enjoy the same standard of living as you.

No - whatever the two people agree to.

I think that it is something that needs to be agreed upon between a couple. For instance, if a man insists on his wife staying home, then, yes, it is his responsibility. If a wife is working and suddenly loses her job, it’s his responsibility to help until she’s able to get to work again. This does not mean she gives up on finding a new job. If you get divorced, and the kids live with the wife, then child support is the father’s responsibility. Nowadays, with the economy the way it is, both people need to work to make ends meet, so the responsibility is split. However, working out how to pay bills is a joint effort and that includes saving money for emergencies.

No. I would advise against marrying anyone who feels the need to be "taken care of".

They don't but I think old cultural norms are hard to shed and many men still feel more fulfilled in life if they are filling at least some provider role. Don't have to be the primary or sole provider anymore but wouldn't want to be dependent financially. But I am also older than many here and won't speak for those under 30.

Absolutely not. It is up to the couple to decide the division of labor in their relationship.

I had a male college roommate who was the eldest in a large family and loved taking care of kids. He wanted to be with a woman who wanted to be the breadwinner while he stayed home taking care of the house and kids.

It would depend upon the agreements made prior to the marriage, I suppose. If you made the commitment "in sickness and in health" and one spouse becomes unable to work due to poor health, then yes, the other spouse supports them. It doesn't matter if it's the husband or the wife, the commitment should apply either way. If both people are employed at the time of the marriage and one of them stops working and says, "Okay, now you support me," that could be a misrepresentation or betrayal. Once one spouse changes the relationship dynamics for no good reason, the other spouse should feel free to reciprocate in kind.

Better not be the only solution in todays age.
I am fine with it because I believe one parent should raise the kids not ship them off to daycare but whether it is me or her staying home wouldn't make a damn bit of difference to me...I don't think.

Now we didn't have kids so our divorce settlement was it but if we had kids we agreed one of us was taking care of and teaching them as infants/toddlers up to school...then we would figure it out again after that.

Sure, but not exclusively.

Certainly, if there are children or pets to care for - adults need to provide adequate care and shelter. Any family without such dependents ? Then it's up to those partners, or the single adult, to work out a mutually agreeable way of responsible living.

Totally subjective. Where would the duty concept come from? Little like a soul, or angels.

Were taught these roles as children and it is a reflection of a societies values/ideology.
So is it a duty? Depends on the society.

I think they should be patient.

If you said you intend to shirk your obligations once your education is complete that would be another thing.

You will likely have a lucrative job in the future.

You should not give that up to wait tables.

Timothy 5:8

“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

Christian Dad

“A man who makes no effort to provide for his family cannot rightly call himself a Christian.”

No.

Nope

In general, that's true. If a man doesn't want to provide for his wife when she is pregnant and raising babies, then she's better off NOT marrying him in the first place and NEVER having children with him.

I made that mistake..I put my low life ex through medical school then when I had a baby and was at home with the newborn, he disappeared to hang out at restaurants with his friends and lovers, leaving me to beg food off my friends.

Sure but so does the wife.

Depends on the agreement with his partner.

Well, you're not going to like it but since you are asking.... Just revert roles for a second and think hypothetically, you have a daughter and fast forward... She is going through a divorce and living with you, and her future ex-husband is studying but has no income and he resents that YOU dared to suggest he should work. What would you do then? Would you feel is your responsibility and obligation to support not only your daughter but the future ex? Even you are well off, consider you are old and took you years to work hard and prepare for your old days...why would you feel like you must carry that weight?

Only while the kids are small & the mom is breastfeeding them. I think for most families though, men have higher incomes & often decent childcare costs as much, or almost as much, as the mom can earn anyway.

For many families living in the modern world, a single income will not suffice, so responsibility has to be shared. Having said this, most men do feel responsible to ensure that family needs are met, and those who don't tend not to command respect.

Individuals need to agree on finances before they get married, but I do think a good father will want his kids to be breastfed & be willing to make most of the for the first 2 years of their lives. & if the marriage ends they still need to help support their kids--they are divorcing their kids' mom, not their kids. Myself, I don't think I'd feel comfortable being entirely financially dependent on someone else.