To all former believers: was sex more fun when you still feared an all seeing, all knowing, wrathful God? For me, agnostic sex is still awesome, but without the fear of eternal damnation, it's not as risky or exciting. I also got a kinky thrill thinking the old guy in the sky was floating on a cloud, judging me. Thoughts?
I was a virgin until I lost my faith. Self-control in that area has never been a problem for me.
I got the reverse as a teenager. The JW's came knocking while my mum was out, had a conversation that seemed to make a lot of sense, and left me with a book. I was religious for 3 days after that, and given that meant God was watching me masturbate, gave that up, too. That was actually the deal breaker on day 3. I decided I'd rather have the release than the faith.
There's plenty of excitement still to be found in sex. Perhaps look at expanding your repertoire a little, if you have a suitably broadminded partner. There's plenty of stuff you can get off on the perceived wrongness and shock value of. I won't tell you mine, except that they're all perfectly legal and between consenting adults.
Playground of the mind and all, I don't have to believe in it to make use of it.
Not even a little. Much, MUCH better without the guilt.
And I’ve never been aroused by kink so... yeah.
Sex is probably more fun and certainly more abundant as an atheist. I would love to find someone suitable for a permanent relationship, but until that time I will just continue to enjoy life as I do now. If there was a god, and if I was damned for my proclivities it would be out of jealousy. Hahaha.
That's the silliest question I have seen lately! I just never attached my sexuality to my religion. Although, it did appear it was supposed to be shunned as much as possible by the church teachings! But, then on the other hand, hardly anything out of my religion stuck to me! Maybe, it has always been true, what has been said about me...'I am hard headed, want everything my way, and I want behave nicely.' My sex life has never suffered, though! So I have no idea if I stuck to the question, but that is my story!
Thank you! I was going for silly.
@EricTrommater you will need to catch me off guard, ‘for silly!’ I am deeply rooted in realism!’ Too much, maybe?
Not sure I ever believed in original sin. That sure never bothered me. When young I worried about parents. I always avoided still married women. AND, Never, ever date a good friend's ex, even if he initiates the idea and presses you to do it.
My fantasies often involved public sex with mild S&M, but since I'm basically amoral, hard to tell if past religious notions fueled any of this. With my ex, I often played Dominatrix and we did role switching, but it seemed to come from our both of us being androgynous, more than beliefs.
My kind of lady, though I prefer privacy, I have found sex in public to be a very common fantasy among female friends.