Been there done that and I have to say it`s a bit too clinical for my tastes. Not that I am looking for yet a another long term partner but some emotional entanglement is a must for me now. When I go swimming I want to get my hair wet. Give me a head over heals love affair any day. It may go arse over tit but I want that fall from grace.

Friends with benefits sounds good to me,if that benefit is sex

I've been in a friends with bennies relationship before. It was exciting and fun and when it ended it was on good terms. No regrets, ho harm.
I have another "friend" who's interested in this arrangement, but I'll need to move first. Maybe soon I hope.

If someone can handle that arrangement, more power to them!

I don't know what to tell you... we need to have a fight... but never happens... so here we are. With more questions than answers. And that... "what do we want?" Every 10 years... revisited, because we never said goodbye or threw a "Fuck You" as send off note. We just are... until one of us die. 2 planets in a universe just being. Putting distance between us... to be removed because we want to play with fire once in a while. So we are. The whispers we hear... close and far... the "he's back" or "she just went". And they wonder. Because we never broken up to say goodbye.

I'm all for it, but it's difficult. You have to find someone you're physically attracted to and good friends with, but at the same time, not romantically interested in. I've had multiple FWBs in the past. One even lasted seven years, on and off (we broke whenever either of us was in an actual relationship). However, that one ended when she decided she wanted to convert it to a real relationship.

Absolutely. I find women who have or have ad FWBs more attractive, because it tells me that they're not hung p on societal norms, and aren't afraid to go after what they want.

I have been doing it for 50 years and, to the best of my knowledge, everyone was a winner. (IMHO)

No offence Bob but you're not my kind of gal But seriously, if 2 adults want to fool around then why not? They might get their feelings hurt or they might enjoy the whole thing and something more might come of it ... they go in with open eyes and life is for living and learning.

I have one friend like that. We both have needs that we can meet sexually.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Truly depends on the friendship

If that is what someone is willing to settle for, it's ok by me. For me, not so much.

I think friends with benefits is very hard for a woman because there is so much emotion involved. I'm not saying that there aren't woman out there that can't keep there emotions separate, but I think for most, myself included, we love with our heart.

Ok so long as both partners understand and agree up front. Most that I have known of have either developed (one sided) romantic feelings or ruined the friendship. It's not for me, but that does not have any impact on others for whom it suits.

a friend is the most important part of this and not the benefits so much I think. I would have a one-off sex date but there would have to be some basic honesty but it's not what I really want. I would love to find a woman who has her own house and life but we are an item and don't cheat on each other.

Its easy to give someone more than they can handle, when they start catching feelings you need to know when to keep them at arms length without hurting them badly. I have never caught feelings in this type of relationship, but I would want them to stop me if they thought I was falling for them.

It's as close to lovin as I have been in recent years, all honest, no secrets.

It works for a while until one partner wants more

if thry have health insurance that covers me that would be great