I havent seen many posts go over well that have included comments with concerns about how to word them without hurting people

We each have our "thing" regarding attraction.

I've worked out most of my life, and seen so many in shape people. And I fully admit, while I'm not stuck on "muscle bound jocks" , or perfection at all, I am drawn to healthy, reasonably defined bodies , that show signs of maintenance and vitality. Big bellies and "moobs" turn me right off. Slender to thin works fine too.

Sure, I can be friends with anyone. But if I'm considering becoming intimate with someone, well - gotta have what I gotta have !

Many people have a preference in body types that attract them, and you can be aware of it without explaining it specifically to anyone (besides your very closest confidantes). "I'm sorry, I just don't feel that way about you" are the best words to use if someone unfitting propositions you. It's better not to risk hurting their feelings or alienating them. If they ask "why not", I might say "I just don't feel a spark" (which includes chemistry) or "I don't feel we have enough in common" (which includes care for one's physique) but I would not say anything specific about their bodies, because it would only be true relative to my experience, it would not be their reality.

Sounds like you want to apologize for what you prefer. Just saying. You like what you like and that's it.

Thank you for all of your replies and opinions occasional anger and supportive words this is what I'm here for I'm not here to judge I'm just here to love..
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Help whenever I can I'm a good person to bounce ideas and feelings off of

Body type? Enjoy the body of a woman. The alternative is the misery of rosy palm and the 5 sisters.

One doesn't have to wonder why some of these men are single, yes? Oy vey

We all have our biases, even if they’re unconscious and not intentional. It’s a byproduct of socialization. I am admittedly always more attracted (initially) to men who are taller than me and either muscular or on the husky side. Generally I’m not drawn to very thin or very heavy men; however, I have had relationships with both and found myself attracted to them. I won’t automatically rule anyone out based on appearance, but I do have preferences as far as immediate attraction.

Every time you make a deprecatory,or disparaging comment about a woman’s weight you Implicitly indorse an unreasonable and unattainable societal standard for beauty that woman are subjected to from childhood onward.You contribute to a culture that values a woman for their size rather than the content of their character . Plus who gives a crap what body type you are interested in

So, you are trying to say you like little thin women? Who gives a rat's ass? Go get yourself one!

Idk I've had fat women interested in me and i was honest with them and told them soory I'm not in to fat woman and the same with scrawny women. I believe in being open and honest good or bad i don't care if a person gets offended especially if it's the truth..they don't like it they can change it. I was 400 lbs at one point i never got offended when i was called fat ,why?cuz it was the truth. Everybody has their own taste nobody should get offended by that and those who do are part of what's wrong with the world today as the world becomes more and more pussified.

I prefer warm, with a still beating heart. I used to volunteer at a hospital pushing wheelchairs. The people in those wheelchairs became my friends. I laughed when they joked and I cried when they died. What a goldmine of humanity I once mined.

You like what you like. I think, a lot of the time, people get themselves in more trouble trying too hard not to be offensive, than if they'd just say what they're thinking straight-up. Some people aren't as good as others at expressing themselves. I'm just going to keep trying to understand what someone means before I jump their shit for how they said it.

Me thinks there may be a troll in our midst.

I think most people have their turn ons and turn offs. It's just expressing it in a way that doesn't offend or body-shame anyone... so - best to just keep it to yourself.

you are attracted to what your attracted too

FIM Syndrome?

You say empathetic in a way that seems like you have not the slightest clue on what it means.

I feel ya..male obesity, flabbiness, beer bellies, all turn-offs in the attraction department for many women.

Some women like dad bods, though.

Dont really think you can, sorry mate.