I've read a lot of the comments on this post, and I feel like people are missing the mark a little. Or maybe I am, who knows. But I think I get where you're coming from. I have a hard time finding people that really get me. I don't know how to explain it other than having that click with someone. Its like an instant sort of connection, and like a big " YESSSSS" when you really get what the other person is saying/feeling. It doesn't even have to be romantic. You don't even have to agree on everything, but just getting where that person is coming from and like really connecting and being able to talk about anything. It gives you a sense of fulfilment as well.

If it makes you feel better, Im 24 and Im still looking. I've had a few friends like that in my life but we all went our seperate ways. If Im completely wrong, just laugh at me and move on. If I'm right though, you should message me to tell me! I'd be interested to know.

You are young, don't be so impatient. Most people your age are way too busy having fun and drinking way too much. It will happen, don't despair.

The more qualifiers one has, and the more of a minority one is, the less the likelihood of running into a reasonable match.

It can be big time frustrating !

How many do you need?

I believe the key is to find someone who complements you rather than mirrors you. If you are on the same wavelength for the big things like politics and religion you can usually work around differences in other areas.

Here's my joke about local, single older men in Wenatchee, WA:

If I wanted a fat, good 'ol boy, tobacco chewing, ignorant, Republican fisherman and hunter who loves his Harley, snowmobile and chainsaw and decorates with antlers... I'd be ALL SET.

On dating websites, my local matches look like a police lineup.

I have always experienced the same thing. I rarely meet people who are on the same wavelength as me. I'm deep and emotional, and have a lot of self- and social awareness. Haven't found that...