Been married for 27 years. Just saw a program on the tv about the differences between men and women communicate. They have two completely different means. Men basically want to fix things, women want to talk about them discuss, listen and then come to a decision. I hope I have this right. Kate and I finally saw what each other wants to have happen. When she comments, she wants to talk and have a conversation, be listened to and made to feel important, she is. Trying to fix everything is not a good idea as it takes all the conversation, listening, personal time out of the equation. There is much more to discuss here, I hope this will make a good start. I feel like I am genetically a failure at this, I would like to get a clue. Please help.

MEN RULE OK, God says so.

If we let them. It's this outdated thinking that we need a man........
Trust yourself...

Women of my generation were not taught how to do a lot of things. Many of them I learned how to do on my own but now I lack the upper body strength due to age and a damaged shoulder.

Frankly, I am paying people to do things that even a man in his 50's could do easily.

Why I truly hate to admit it , you're right . I'd like to have some male friends , but it's been decades since I've even attempted anything beyond that . My neighbor , a true friend , says I'm jaded . I responded that I'm a realist . A part of the problem is , that boys and girls are raised with different expectations . Girls are raised to expect Prince Charming , marriage , children , and the responsibilities , and the majority also expect to have a career or at least a job . Boys are raised to expect football , baseball , hockey , soccer , hunting , a job or career , and hookups . Look at the bios on this site . Although each is different , most male bios include , sex in interests , and most include looking for hookups . Females would like some caring , some romance , some love , some help with the responsibilities . That is not being offered .

In my experience it's expectations that mess things up. My ex thought I should do all the housework even though I was working full time and carrying fulltime credits in college....just because I was the female and he liked traditional gender roles.

Speaking as a partner in a failed relationship, not a man - I think it is very dependent on both and how well they are able to work together. It isn't really a male/female thing although it might appear as that when seen from the perspective of one sex.

I suck at a few “guy things” like cars, etc. thankfully I have 2 girlfriends that loan me their husbands from time to time!!!

Life is complicated . Men are complicated. Women are complicated. It doesn’t take a man in your life to screw things up. Problems crop up on their own all the time. Some men can help, some men can’t. And vice versa.

I was married 22 years, 2 sons now grown, divorced going on 12 years. I have been in three relationships and dated a lot too. I love men but i am very independent. Probably won't marry again. I just broke up with someone because I didn't want to live in his town in a big house to take care of and his afternoon drinking every day bothered me. I know i can't change anyone best to just move on.

I think we make it difficult when we look at other people to save us. That goes for men and women. Of course in a relationship or a marriage we're they're to support each other, but that'a different. I'm still trying to figure this out: don't want to become too dependent on someone, at the same time don't feel I have to do everything alone.

I agree. Even when my relationships were the greatest, it's still harder to do anything with men, and I always breathed a sigh of relief when they were gone. I always felt like I had three kids.

I am a man and I have the same attitude about women. I love women and enjoy spending time with them when I have the opportunity to do so which isn't very often.