If you could see yourself thru someone else’s eye and see all your flaws, do you think you would be surprised?
What flaws??? You obviously have me mixed up with someone else.
Clearly.
Nah. It's the inverse for me. I couldn't take a compliment at gunpoint without wondering what motivation brought them to such desperation.
lol!
This question flummoxed me. Most of my friends usually tell me they wish l could see myself through their eyes so I can see my good qualities.
I am my own worst critic. I don't need any help.
nope, my flaws feel pretty obvious since they've been repeated to me for a pretty long time. Im not good at fixing them, i should probably work on that
I live with my flaws. I figure if someone doesn’t like them they can tell me, and I still will likely not change. I’m too old now to care.
Nope. How often you hear someone in a better position than you say... I wish I was more like you! You have to accept Who you are and How you are. People often enough look only for what's good about you and what is wrong is tossed aside. When I look at a woman for the first time I look at her first with the "artist eye". I squint to see only the features before I see the details. The imperfections will be revealed later. But I never want them to be the first impression. Nothing surprises me about me other than going back to read things I wrote years ago... that's surprise me because brings to the front the things someone's eye will never see. We need to stop the "What do they think of me?" There is a time for everything but the time for loving yourself never ends.
You get there around age 40ish. I gave up worrying about what people think of me about that point and I’ve never looked back.
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I wouldn't be surprised, but I would be depressed.
I’ve been depressed for years. Nothing special about it.
I don’t think I would be surprised. I’m aware of most of not all my flaws. Flaws are what make us unique in my opinion.
nah, I have them in spades, I find most people have rose coloured glasses and I have to point some of my flaws out to them. I do get a bit peeved when someone finally sees a flaw they have overlooked and gets mad at me, seriously, the flaws have always been there, not my fault they didn't notice them.
I doubt anyone thinks about me much at all, except when our lives intersect, and that's the way I like it.
People who have had obsessed stalkers and revengeful enemies would probably agree!
My youngest sister used to be jealous of me, and angry that I hung with my other sister, so took constant revenge on me, which I never saw coming, being clueless.
My dad was also jealous of me, resenting me due to my being born eleven months after my older brother. He constantly blamed me for everything, even when I'd been gone to a friend's house when the deed happened. He would even punish me for things he heard of other horses doing, assuming it was my horse, even if the offending horse was a completely different color.
Luckily, my siblings usually helped by letting me get lost in the crowd of kids and sometimes my mom went behind the scenes to get my dad to relent on some arbitrary punishment, and my dad was at the radio station transmitters most of the time anyway, working on the diesel engines.
Yes, I know some of my flaws but I am sure there are some that never even occurred to me. Also, many people see me as angry because I have a gruff tone in my voice. If I try to "ungruff" my voice I come across as patronizing and condescending.
Probably not as I'm quite self-aware but without that actually happening it's not easy to answer.