I recently became single because my ex decided he couldn't live with my cat. Prior to this, he kept giving me ultimatums: the cat leaves or he does. Would any of you give up your pet to make somebody else happy?
Judas & Hitler would be passing out ice skates & parkas before I'd give up my dog for a dick.
NOPE. If you had the pet when you met and he decides he(or she) doesn't like the pet/cat the person is being passive agressive and using the animal as an excuse to get out of the relationship. This is my humble opinion, he lacks honesty, instead of talking about what is really bothering him in the relationship uses the cat to get out. You choose wisely.
Hell no. I'm a package deal, and that includes my pets
You made the right choice. No way. My cat comes first...probably before me...hehe...hope he doesn't ask me to move out..
I have a little dog and I know that if I was given an ultimatum like that, I would be instantly unattracted. I have others in my life that see the value in the love I have for my dog and they love her too. If him being happy requires making me Unhappy about something?
I could not be with someone like that.
In his defense, though, cats are evil.
When a cat takes a dislike to someone they can turn into a little demon.
Evil, evil kitty!
@sandyw1952 my first glance saw that as a cat in a roasting pan. ACK
Often you get back the energy you put into cats (or dogs).
If my cats really don't like someone - I'm going to reassess my opinion.
So far it's only smokers that freak them out (The smell on their fingers). No they do NOT smoke in my house.
I don't take kindly to ultimatums. Knowing me, I probably would have kept the cat even if I was considering giving it away.
I'm assuming he knew about your cat before (or shortly after) he started dating you. If that's the case he should not have gotten into a relationship with you knowing you had a cat if he was that much against being around one.
It was nice knowing you. Take care. Buh bye now.
Don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out!!
It had nothing to do with the cat he was just to much if a coward to tell the truth .
@SimonMorgan1 I once read that a man would rather chew his own arm off before telling a woman he is no longer interested. While I know this is an exaggeration, I always keep that in the back of my mind. Seems to fit in this situation.
No. Just no.
I guess if I ever get serious about dating I'd have to add "Allergic to pets - need not apply".
I myself am allergic to cats and dogs. I've had both - at the same time. You take a pill. Or two.
Granted if it's anaphyalaxsis - that's different. But no could not re home.
I went 37 years hearing "Your sister is allergic it would be like telling her not to visit!". She also now has a cat. (Allergies can change over time. She was scarily allergic as a child. Not now.
My ex was not a fan of animals in general, of course my chosen pets were two large boa constrictors which I did find new homes for because of her. I also wanted bees, not really pets but something else she made clear was not welcome while she was around. She is not a happy person and was always demanding things that she thought I should do to make her happy. Eventually she left me for god, apparently god makes her happy? Anyway, I got two new snakes and bees and I also raise mice both as pet and pet food (I know, I'm horrible) and have birds, basically a house full of animals, I am much happier with them than I was with her, go figure.
I will never date / be with a person who has snakes / spiders and the likes as pets....i
Absolutely not. Any person who doesn't like my pets isn't for me. I'm sorry this happened to you. There are many other people who will love you AND your feline family.
Any person who would abandon a loved one due to the presence of a cat in the house, is not worth the time of day. In any relationships one must accept children, and even animals, as part of the deal, or show the depths of your love for the partner by bailing out, and proving how shallow your love was in the first place.
Be grateful that he has shown his colours, and be assured, there is another REAL man out there waiting for you..
I have since thought about this again. I believe he wanted out and used the cat as a lame excuse to leave you.
Not a chance. My pets are part of my family. That would be like asking me to get rid of one of my kids. If given that ultimatum I would just say, "There's the door."