This message from men floors me. "What does he want to know?" I wonder. My personal history? The onus is on me to entertain him.
Yesterday I got that message from a man in Germany. "I suggest you focus on women in Germany," I replied.
Reminds me of my mother. "How are you really?" Mom repeatedly asked. Because I was born prematurely, Mom saw me as delicate, even as an adult.
"What do you want, my bowel movements?" I replied, amused, to sidestep the question.
yes ask them what hey would like to know because more than likely they will be at a loss of what to ask you and a good come back I will tell you when the time is right if we get that far
My favorite comeback is from George Carlin. "Hey, how are u today?" is the lamest message I get from too many guys.
"Not unwell, thank you," I reply. crickets
With a reply like that it does not lead into an answer to continue the conversation along those lines ,so he must change the subject
It's a fast, easy, and lazy way of pretending to start a conversation without actually making any effort to personalize the approach. And, yes, it does place all the burden on the respondent so a sarcastic or disinterested reply is completely justified.
I recommend sarcasm, it's the most fun.
Exactly. Well said.
I agree with someone else that it's lazy. When someone asks me this I usually say "What would you like to know?" and if they can't be more specific, they probably aren't that interesting. I need something to work with.
I'll bite. I'd like to know more about you. How long have you been in Arizona?
@Bushshaker huh?
@VineetHonkan 10 years.
@Roxi wow! My old ex phys prog was from there. Here enjoyed it bc of the altitude for sports training at their conditioning centre.
Although I understand how the vagueness or openness of the question can make for a weak icebreaker, I either ask directly "Sure, what would you like to know?" or I assume they want to know what's important to me and I'll tell a bit about what I value in life. I figure it's just someone trying to connect and express interest, and not everyone is a great conversationalist. Hell, I can be a little awkward sometimes, so I try not to hold it against others who don't have the best or smoothest approach.
As a compulsive oversharer, I'm more likely to get a frantic waving of hands followed by "TELL ME LESS! TELL ME LESS!"
Ha ha, same
I always answer, "what would you like to know? Ask me anything. The worst thing I can do is tell you it's none if your business."
Granted, that may not be the most successful comeback considering I am still single.
I think that is a question people ask when they are not sure what to say. Nerves maybe? If they read your bio there are usually good opening topics in there. The man I am currently seeing now did such a great job with that. Really read my bio and asked great questions. Your mom is another story )
In my opinion he wanted to begin a friendly conversation
not a real profile. I only respond to messages that reference something specific in my profile .
What you have is a general question hoping to get a response. Ask them something specific and see what you get back.
Lots and lots of fake profiles on those dating sights
Questions generally tell you more about someone than answers. If that's the best he can do, a clear signal to move on.
"I always find that question offputting... Why don't you tell me something interesting about yourself and we can have a conversation?" (not really actually I stutter and say wierd sht but I think that would be a great answer)
I think it is a well intentioned but uncreative question. Just talk about stuff and let the details come out, or at least ask more specific questions..
When a woman from far away replies i simply wish her well. What the hell was she thinking I muse? When I get like from female far away and simply just wander what was going through their heads. I often think they just want ANY attention, not my type.
As far as bowel movements I only discussed that with my X-wife in the case of medical concerns. Not a very hot topic, GOOD MOVE!
See what I did there!
Both! All or nothing, goddammit! "Yea, tho we walking through the Shadow of the Valley of Death we will fear NO evil, for you and I are the BADDEST muthafuckers in the Valley... right, @DeniseNycee?
I don't understand what all the fuss is about, that's an open ended question with basically unlimited answers. What it lacks in specificity it makes up for in opportunity. If you meet the guy on the internet, he's probably just at a loss for words or he doesn't want to accidentally offend you.
I refuse to type an autobiography for a guy who didn't read my profile.
@LiterateHiker Biography? What? No, just pick any one thing and say that, like what did you eat for breakfast, or what was the last news story you heard, or the last fun thing you did. Or ignore the request entirely and pick a topic you might want to talk to him about. Or try and guess a topic he might want to talk to you about. The fact that he didn't do any of those things means he probably a shmuck, but that doesn't mean you have to be rude.
The guy was from Germany. "I suggest you focus on women in Germany," I replied.
I was not rude.
@LiterateHiker None of this makes any sense. The distance, which I have to assume he was aware of because you were aware of it, means that either he is a shmuck or he has purely Platonic intentions. I guess I'm just going to have to trust your judgement.
If a guy wants to know more, they should ask the specific questions and not vague crap!
Exactly. Well said.
I was born in 1953, too.
@LiterateHiker year of the snake in the Chinese astrology, but don't fret because the snake is wise in Chinese lore..
How do you answer, "I want to know more about you"?
"Call me on the telephone so we can chat like real human beings, please."
I HATE robotic, always out of sync text with a deep, seething passion.
Another great choice. I prefer it as well.