Don't worry. Your day is coming, Triphid. snicker

@Canyonrunner Heard that one before, many many times before and STILL NOTHING.

@Triphid It was just wonderfully serendipitous. I was just thinking of that book the other day. I used to see it in used book stores all the time, but not for a while now.

@Canyonrunner My own personal saying is kind of like, " If it wasn't for Bad Luck, then I'd have No luck at all," LOL.

I have trepidations about a Woman who says her Grandmother is in Ghana,or Nigeria,too many problems from there.....

@Mike1947 Listen to those trepidations my friend, it smells very much like a SCAM to me.
As my 'born again, Evangelist' neighbor found out a few years ago to his great financial costs, Ghana/Nigeria, etc, ARE hot-beds of Online Dating scams raking in thousands of dollars at a time from people in other countries.
I don't know exactly what it cost him money-wise BUT I remember him complaining that he had maxed out 2 separate Credit Cards at the time, both worth $5,000 Australian each.
The woman (???) had given him a name, town of residence, e-mail address and a photo of herself (???) plus a long sob-story of how she and her Grandmother, etc, were always struggling financially and her income as a Nurse at their local hospital was never enough to cover their living costs, etc.
Me being me, a kind-hearted person, decided to quietly ask a favor of an old and trusted pen-pal in Ghana, an ex-Pat Aussie btw, to do a little quiet research on this person for me, I'll leave it your imagination as to what the results came back as.

FB keeps suggesting I befriend the former boyfriend of a woman I’d spent some time with recently.. How fucked up is that

@LetzGetReal Open to meeting women was set when I opened this account. . . . Giving up is recent.

I would give up on dating too, but it kills time and doesn't cost anything.

I figured out its not completely rolled out yet in my area. I made a profile but they haven't opened it up for matches or searching yet.

Are you able to search all the profiles or only the ones that they match you with?

It automatically blocks your friends list. Depending on your preference it either suggests friends of friends so you have people in common or blocks them too so it's less likely to be seen by people who know you..

I do know what you mean about the dating apps. This is the first I used any since after my divorce in 2011. That was for other woman and it seemed more fun at the time. This is scary and stressfull..

@LimitedLight Your profile is not shown to anyone on your friends list. It is separate from your regular profile. Also other people in dating have no access to your regular profile. Depending on your choice the Friends of people on your friends list can also be blocked from seeing your profile.

@LimitedLight Im pretty sure I wouldn't participate if Tjere was a chance my friends and family would see my profile.

They do have a secret crush feature for that, but I do t have crushes on any of my friends.

@MsAl I’ve been on it for a week or so. I didn’t add any additional security features. It has my first name and I can see if we have any mutual friends. I like that because I can ask them if I want to know more. I believe you can turn that feature off.

I’m pretty sure no one on my personal Facebook page can see I’m on the dating one.

There is lots of spam on the internet Its unfortunate. I just pass up spammy looking profiles with no info and paople.who like mine and obviously disnt read.my profile. Probably about 90%. You are right. Actually more..

As for the damaged goods part you are gonna be hard pressed to find many virgins out there.these days. Everyone has a past if they aren't very young. I'm not sure that real life is much different.

I guess it would be hard to do much of anything without big businesses that do immoral things these days. I feel worse about my involvement in buying gas and cheap clothing. I'm not all that worried about the tracking for commercial purposes.

@margay With a post you just see your friends.. Its a very different thing. Dating shows you all the single people in your area and allows you to contact them while putting up some safeguards so its reasonably safe to check everyone out. It's a useful tool.

@margay oh that’s a shame, at least you’re giving different things a go I hope you enjoy yourself while you’re waiting.