Well if you could find the answer to that question in a website forum I have a feeling none of us would be here...

Your question is a very important one. It brought me to reflect a lot on my own life as a man. In my 20s and 30s, I had several nice relationships of a couple years or more, in which I felt great love and companionship. But I just did not feel like committing long term. I wish I had a simple "gem" answer for you. My best thought, in retrospect, is that if the women had openly asked me for my thoughts on commitment, I may have given it more consideration. You know, we men can be a bit slow to "get it". But once a good relationship is established, I think almost anything should be open for discussion. And if he does not want to even talk about it, that could be a little red flag.

There is no test. You just have to go with the flow and roll with the punches. Take it as it comes.