I say it because I DON'T want anything for Christmas.

Books are a great way to get out of your predicament. What are his hobby's? wood working? plenty of books on that. Not a handy guy? maybe something from the best sellers list. Humorous books are always a good choice. Personally any of Carl Hiaasen's books are fantastically funny.

The practical reality is that I'm able to buy myself anything I want. Combined with the fact that there is basically nothing of a material nature that I want that I don't already have, and I'm damn hard to shop for. And yes, I'm generally at a loss to tell my anyone what I want / need for a gift. A Tesla Model 3? Probably not what they had in mind!

It's much easier for me. My wife never fails to love a nice bouquet and a card. This year I insisted she get a new smart phone, and we negotiated for a new TV and to rebuild the back deck -- things she wanted for "nesting" purposes. And these things benefit me, too.

Heck, I'm the one who remembered our anniversary this year and she's the one who "forgot" (not really, ladies, she just was confused because we got married the day after Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving was "late" this year, coming after our anniversary date).

Me? I just want a quiet, peaceful Christmas day without arguments or drama, and just low-key respectful appreciation for the things I do / provide for our family. I think I'm pretty typical that way. The problem is that society expects us to buy "stuff" and for that stuff to be "meaningful".

We have been able to de-fuse the worst of this -- the Christmas gifting madness -- because her kids are typically with their biological Dad at Christmas, so we have what we call "Chrisgiving" -- a token exchange of small gifts when everyone is gathered at our home on Thanksgiving. With that out of the way, my wife and I only have to track our anniversary and each other's birthdays.

Perhaps because we really do not want anything specific? We are happy to receive gifts, but we don't expect any.

How about sharing an experience with them, rather than buying yet more uneeded items ?

Is it really men bothering you or is it your son or both?

I have every material thing I need. What I need is AFFECTION!

Tools, most Men need more tools,especially tape measures,12 and 25 foot are the most used.

Moose Munch and Pepper Relish from Harry & David works every year for me.

Youre reduced to whatever level you allow yourself to be.

All i know, is thrift store are a great place to check out xmas marketing trends, every year after new years resolutions, or spring cleaning. Whatever the MIL of the world buy for their childrens spouses, and step-parent buy for the step kids they hardly know, will be in abundance on the shelves about 2-3 years after it was given. Sadly technology gifts are usually obsolete by the time they hit the shelves, even if theyre new in the box, and thats a popular gift choice. May i suggest a gardening cold frame of some sort? I know it won't make it to Florida (where its also not cold), but id like to start a general trend so those sorts of things end up in a store near me. Bonus no wrapping paper needed

I usually suggest porn, crisps (that's chips to you colonials) and beer. Sorted. The porn may give the wrong idea coming from you, probably best scrub that bit.
A Darwin awards book. Us men love humorous death stories. That and the beer etc.

I think it might be because a lot of guys, if they want something, go out and buy it for themselves.

tape measures. I have 2 keychain size, and 1 for each room. Or scissors. Or a small screwdriver set. I know, I'm not a guy, but I am a homeowner, and I'm always looking for one of the above.

Give him a consumable-liquor, a cigar, a food item, etc.

What about books, or magazine subscriptions relevant to his interests?
Or perhaps a Red Rider BB gun and some safety glasses?

My family says that

. . . I can't miss this opportunity :

Get him something useless. Guys like useless crap. And noisy. Guys like noisy crap.
And something to look at that's shiny. That keeps em quiet for a little while.

Get him sex toys this year, you'll have his list day after Thanksgiving till the day you die.