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Why Some Men Still Dress Like They’re 16

This article is interesting.

When I visited Alaska, on the street it seemed all of the men wore dirty jeans, a flannel shirt, baseball cap, leather belt, large belt buckle, dirty boots, scraggly ponytail and beard. Ugh.

They wanted to be seen as rugged individualists. Instead they looked like a school of fish.

I love a well-groomed man. How hard is it to wear khaki pants and a nice shirt on a first date?

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LiterateHiker 9 Dec 17
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When I teach children that they should not judge a book by its' cover, I mean it. !

Unfortunately this is not always the case .What about when they go on a job interview .This is when you get judged by your cover .This is the first impression you make to a prospective boss

@nonbeliever1 . . . completely different situation. I worked so that I could live -- not the other way around.

@FearlessFly

If a man shows up for a first date looking sloppy, dirty and disheveled with no explanation, it's a turn off.

I figure he's a disorganized mess or depressed. No, thank you.

For a first date, I dress nicely to honor the occasion. I keep tennis shoes in my car. If it goes well, we can go for a walk after lunch. It's easy to talk while we're enjoying nature.

@LiterateHiker IMHO, the content of a persons' character can't be judged from the clothes they are wearing. πŸ™‚

. . . also, to me, appearances are one of the least interesting things about a person.

@FearlessFly

So you want to date a smelly slob? Have at it.

@LiterateHiker what a ridiculous statement by this guy that the way a person dresses does not indicate ones character. If they show up for a date dressed Inappropriately this indicates a person does not care how he looks or presents himself to others,or he just has poor social skills which is definitely a negative CHARACTER trait.This will act is a warning sign to the perspective date that if he looks like this now for a special occasion ,what the heck will he look like on a regular basis.

@richiegtt

Thank you. Agreed.

@FearlessFly Hogwash .if a person wears dirty worn out messy clothing this indicates poor judgement which is a character trait .You can by good clothes for practically nothing in thrift stores like I do so it’s not about money but common sense and showing respect to your date .

There are lots of folks who wear "good clothes", but whose judgement and character are suspect. Hitler, Stalin, Jimmy Swaggart, Trump etc.

Anyone can "put on a show" with clothes.

@LiterateHiker usually smelly slobs prefer the company of other smelly slobs ,so they can continue to be smelly slobs .

@FearlessFly There are a lot of people that wear bad clothes but whose judgement and character are suspect.

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I suppose one can also ask why 40 and older women dress like teenage girls and think it's cute.

@MissKathleen Girl, here in Scottsdale (SNOTTSdale) the moms, daughters, and granddaughters all look alime...not in a good way!!

@MissKathleen I live in a beach community...seeing pink or blue in the hair of women over 60 is very common...as is seeing very elderly women carrying guns in their tote bags...there is a beach culture that really makes it seem very normal to me...age is not as critical to me as what looks decent...I do not want to see the crack of anyone's ass wearing leggings no matter the age... πŸ™‚

@MissKathleen I have been to Scotsdale a few times...ha ha...yep...

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Where would I go to find the definitive, authoritative information concerning what age and how anyone should dress?

It’s about being well groomed and neatly dressed .This is just common sense and good personal hygiene not a particular attire

@richiegtt Your opinion is noted.

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As a woman who is in jeans and tshirts whenever possible I can’t fault the guys and imWAYover 21.πŸ™‚Americans in general dress for comfort.

Cinco Level 5 Dec 17, 2019

Comfort is fine. Far too many, though, are sloppy.

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Every time I read a new excerpt from "Tales of the Literate Hiker" it becomes even clearer to me that @LiterateHiker is really Elaine Benes.

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I'm not gettin' my fingerprints on this trainwreck of a topic!!!
🀣🀣🀣🀣

Y'all crack me up.

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The way men dress has degenerated at a steady pace over the years, and younger woman do not even realize it because this is normal .Some men do not dress appropriately for the occasion.I was recently at a funeral and there were men there that did not have the decency to even wear a dress shirt and trousers.The unshaven dirty grungy 5 day old beard look is an example of what people once found unsightly but is now accepted. Whenever i look at photos of men walking around Manhattan or any major city 60 or more years ago it’s shocking to see how much more civilized and well groomed they appear to be ,but that’s only my opinion.I purchase most of my clothing in thrift shops and the salvation army,even though I can afford better. You do not need new designer clothes to look presentable.

@Shawappa44820 I'd far rather a man be civilized than "look civilized".

I've met folks who resemble mountain men who are way more mannerly than folks in the nicest suits. Give me someone with some decency in their bones.

@Shawappa44820 And civility is all about looks. πŸ˜›

@Shawappa44820 what the,hell does their behavior have to do with this post you nitwit .This post addresses men’s grooming not their behavior

@bingst The word civilized can be used as an abstract term to describe ones looks and or attire without alluding to their behavior

@richiegtt Maybe you need to take a break from calling folks names?

This really isn't that hot a topic.

Maybe you need a Snickers?

@RavenCT You are correct

@richiegtt I agree ,But usually one slob does not care what another slob looks like .

@richiegtt I have a feeling your reply to bingst is to abstract for him to comprehend due to his ignorant statement

@nonbeliever1 You didn't notice the universal symbol for sarcasm did you πŸ˜› ?

@godlessguy There does not seem to be a short supply here

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As an ex-clothes horse I am disappointed that you rarely see a man in a bespoke suit and many tailors and haberdashery shops have gone the way of the dodo. 😟 Even a new, clean pair of jeans, boots with fresh polish and a polo shirt seem to be considered overdressed these days and I think it is a shame.
On the flip side, seeing women in their prime or past it for that matter dressing like teeny boppers is also disappointing and unsettling. Dressing like a kid does not make a woman look younger, it just makes her look silly.

I didn't mention that I worked heavy construction for 30 years, ran large hotel jobs in the Caribbean on site. My daily attire consisted of work boots, Levis 501s and Tommy Bahama rough silk shirts with a hard hat. Polyester work wear does not breathe but raw silk does breathe and wears like iron, good enough for a samurai is good enough for me. You can work hard and get dirty but there is no reason a man can't clean up at the end of the day and take his lady out on the town in style.

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It is refreshing to know that some woman still believe proper attire is an important attribute.This not caring attitude is one of the reasons there are so many Disheveled slobs walking around .
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A slobs opinion is very important to me .Thank you

@maturin1919 Why are you disheveled slobs so belligerent toward people that just want to be appropriately dressed and make a nice impression on a young lady .Is this some disheveled slob syndrome.This has absolutely nothing to do with judging a book by it cover MR SLOB

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When a man does not dress appropriately for the occasion it gives the impression he does not give a shit,but hey some people want to give that impression

As long as the woman gets the same courtesy

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If you're talking about a first date... neat and clean jeans or shorts are fine by me. I'm a casual person. I like comfort in my clothes. So I would want the person I meet to be comfortable too. If they wear khaki's that's fine too. Clean is the main issue for me otherwise, be yourself!

@Shawappa44820 Exactly!

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As someone who tends to be drawn to long haired (yes, even man buns), and/or bearded types , I giggled a little at your description of Alaskan guys.

However, I don't see "well groomed" and the "rugged look" as being mutually exclusive. Hairy headed guys, that are reasonably clean, with shiny well kept hair, and a shaped beard are definite turn-ons for me. Of course, being here in the South, while flannel shirts are not worn too often, shorts, t-shirts, and work boots are. Along with jeans and T's , even cowboy hats - as we do have plenty of real cowboys here !

Then too, riding motorcycles often presents just the look I like. I prefer good fitting jeans to khakis any day.

And of course it depends if someone is coming straight from physical work - I make allowance for that. But then, seeing someone all cleaned up and polished - even if their hair is long, and their beard is full - all fine by me !
Men like Jason Momoa, Sam Elliot in the movie "Roadhouse", Jeff Bridges in hairy mode, or Bradley Cooper in "A Star is Born" (be still my heart !!) come to mind ...

All this said, with that certain personality that appeals, any hair, or no hair at all can work too !

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I'm a lumberjack and I'm OK....

BDair Level 8 Dec 17, 2019
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I lived in Anchorage, Alaska for 5 years and can tell you that I enjoyed looking the way you described and still had zero problems with Women. Alaska is a mixing pot and we’re not all just fishermen and oil workers lol.. I was working in upper management there and wore a suit daily. My beard was pretty kick ass πŸ˜‰

Shortage of women there? That's what I've read.

@RavenCT maybe in the 70’s and 80’s. When I lived there I would say it was close to 50/50. At least in Anchorage

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You said "on the street." That's not a date. They may have been going to or coming from work, work being manual labor. Did they dress like that for dates too?

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@genessa

I have met many men who showed up fat and sloppy. They posted old photos.

The worst was a guy who went from pruning his orchard to meet me. Sweaty, stinky and dirty with wood chips, dirt and detritus in his hair, clothes and on his face. His old jacket was ripped and filthy.

I got a manicure for this?

@LiterateHiker I have not had this experience but i was the manager of a branch of a language school in japan, and i was hiring teachers. A guy showed up for his interview in shorts and a net shirt. Now, if he had said "sorry, my game ran late and i had a choicd between taking the time to change and being late, and coming as i am." i would have given it no further thought, but he didn't mention it, so i mentioned it and hr was surprised to hear it mattered how he was dressed. So i didn't hire him and told him why. He couldn't understand it. Why did it matter how he dressed? I told him it didn't necessarily matter except that it showed bad judgment to show up to an interview as he had, and i needed someone with good judgment.

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For a woman who claims to want to date men, you sure shit all over them. Often.

Also, you are comparing men on the street, who live in Alaska to what you want to see on a first date. ....
Apples and oranges. ....

Give it a rest. ... I'm a woman and sick of your crap. ... I can only imagine how the men feel.

@JustAskMe

Read the article. Through dating sites, I have met many men who showed up fat and sloppy. They posted old photos of their past, slimmer self.

The worst was a guy who went from pruning his orchard to meet me. Sweaty, stinky and dirty with wood chips, dirt and detritus in his hair, clothes, hands and on his face. His old jacket was ripped and filthy.

I got a manicure for this?

@LiterateHiker they showed up fat? How dare they!

If I weren't straight - I'd propose! ❀

@Bigwavedave
Careful dave. She has a fillet knife.

@justaskme ask me to note on this thread that she has been blocked......

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A date , is going to be as good as it gets . While we do work and cloths get dirty and worn while working , a date is , in a way , similar to a job interview . If you make absolutely no effort to be clean and put together , you're not going to get the , "job ." Men prefer to win the , " hotty ." Do men go looking for a woman who's wearing the boots she wore , when she went to slop the pigs ? The blouse she was wearing , when the baby threw up on her shoulder ? The dress she wore while washing the dishes , that has the sudsy line across the front ? Crud on her hands , because she had to change the tire ? Everything is down hill after the dating . If you don't have enough interest or respect in a date , or even a meet up , to clean yourself up , and put on something a bit nicer than you used for work , than what makes you think a decent woman would be interested in getting buffed up for you ?

well said !

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People dress the way they feel comfortable. Respect that instead of making these remarks. As long they behave properly, why make such a fuss about what they wear?

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How about this for a first date outfit?

@MrBeelzeebubbles

Try smiling.

Gangster from Ukraine? Do you use conditioner on your facial creation?

@Mooolah same as on head. Why buy two product? (In thick eastern European accent)

@LiterateHiker I'm practicing Blue Steel.

@LiterateHiker better? Must admit, I'm rather toasted and post-clubbing in this one.

@Mooolah Liked that one. Certainly "gangster" from some place. Wonder if he tucks his shirt tails into his underwear.

@Diogenes Hahahaha! We Ukrainian gangsters mock your effeminate 'underwear'!

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She wants FIT and WELL DRESSED OKAY EVERYONE?

I myself don't mind the muffin top that can come with age.... Life happens.

I've met some nice men with little muffin tops going on.... and my waist isn't spectacular.... (Hey I'm disabled).

What's inside is way more important than what's outside. Though if someone can't clean up a bit for a date - I would suspect depression. (And probably get them in touch with some help). Yup I've actually done that. πŸ˜‰

@RavenCT

Thank you, darling!

Unshaven guys got defensive.

@LiterateHiker Beards are a line of defense in the Winter up North. I don't object unless they become soup catchers.

Don't forget rich

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At least if people dressed how they want, others would have the first clue of what they might not want...the controllable exterior, ie. clothing, grooming, might be the hint that a person might not be suited for you and vice-versa.

I have met many men in a nice suit that just did not match up to who they really were. I have also met many men in jeans and a t-shirt that were pretty down to earth.

On a date, I think you would find the men in Alaska would be clean and neat and still be themselves. I doubt you would still like them because inside, they truly are more rugged and individualistic, independent and outdoorsy or else they would probably be working in Manhatten...clothes do make the man so I would look at it as a gift if that type of man is not your type.

Personally, I would probably pick torn jeans over khakis...

@MissKathleen

Same here. My skin is very sensitive.

Grizzled white beards age men 10 years or more.

I prefer a clean-shaven man.

@MissKathleen

I'm half-Irish and half-English with porcelain skin.

My little sister got skin cancer at age 22. I was 27. That was the last year I had a tan.

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I always clean up for date. Sometimes even if I am going out by myself for a few drinks.
I always seem to get compliments from the younger ladies.

What's a khaki?

twill Level 7 Dec 17, 2019

@twill

Khaki pants.

@LiterateHiker Ha ha . Gotcha!

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I’m staying out of this conversation because sometimes people are too judgmental. β€œLive and let live.”

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I find I get better service and respect when I go out or attend a meeting and dress with a sport coat and ironed shirt. That said I like working around the homestead in the garden, splitting wood, mowing the lawn. At that time I dress comfortably which my wife claims homeless wouldn't wear.

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This is Alaska... not Los Angeles?

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I get ripped on all the time by my Lady for me casual dress, but to be honest it's all about comfort. Nice looking clothes just don't feel quite as nice on the body....

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