Agree. People are attracted to people who are happy, confident and take care of themselves, with extra energy to care for others as well.

Can you live without someone you love more than your own life? Yes. The love of that person, even though they are not in your life, for whatever reasons, still leaves you with their ideals you might strive for to enhance your life.

"People have too little self love" is largely true about most western societies. Self love includes taking care of one's self, nurturing the self, striving to become a better person, being aware of one's own needs and wants, and gaining appreciation and respect for one's self. After some amount of success in that directionn, a person become more capable of directing love and caring to another person.

But regardless of how much or how little you may love yourself, yes, it is possible to love somebody more than yourself. But with a good healthy measure of self love, you will be MORE capable of loving somebody else, and you may love them more deeply.

Very deep ::: having knowledge of who we are is essential
for mental good health & wellbeing ( in my humble opinion ).
In the second part - I have seen & heard of amazing geniuses ( art ; music; writers ; scientists ; ect.) who didn't put themselves on a pedestal , but were adjusted to life and very driven to achieve or excel at what thier passions were.
We need different things AT DIFFERENT STAGES OF LIFE
and there is no / one size fits all . Some human needs are probably with us throughout our lives ; others not so much.
Like a journey ~ we may need some supplies at certain times and not particularly at every step - we could & should know this ( and to our own self & other people be true +clear)
honestly. Self reflection ( and vulnerability ) are sounding boards / litmus TESTS . Society is also changing around us ,
and to learn what is true about how we interact with the world is ( and has to be ) where we grow. I have met monks
who probably didn't measure personal growth this way , yet felt that they were socially adjusted -they had a myopic view
through religion( other issues can cloud a person's views of their reality in life - money; status; age ; race ;culture; location ; ect.) .A full life is in the eyes of the beholder- we all use different yardsticks( and they should be accurate & and up to date ) ,because we are all UNIQUELY ourselves.
Thanks

Too many people these days have bought into the notion that somebody and everybody else is responsible for your happiness, and in turn responsible for whatever minery one is dragging around. This only leads to a lifetime of malcontent we are responsible for our own moods and attitudes and have to get those lined out before involving anyone else, least of all to mention is once those are lined out, another person becomes a bonus, not a need.

most people do just that

Of course you can.

I don't know if you're talking about yourself of not and I don't need to know, and I don't wish to be critical of you but I am going to tell you for the sole purpose of trying to be of assistance that I do not believe that someone who loves someone else more than their own life truly loves themselves.

Please feel free to ignore me if you choose, but I am not going to pass up an opportunity to try to help even if it risks your temporary pain.

Agree

In the end you are all you have. We're born alone and we die alone. If you don't love yourself, you have no love at all.