I have a theory for why that may be. I think if I were to ever get married I'd like my own bedroom as well. One partner may be a light sleeper. The other may be a snorer or have night terrors or something that makes them a restless sleeper. In order for the light sleeper to function in life and get any sleep at all, they sleep in separate rooms. Another hypothesis I have, they have different work/sleeping schedules or one has a rotating shift. Once again to get sleep, they sleep in separate rooms. It does not lessen the love and intimacy partners have if they do not Sleep together at the same times. Those are my thoughts.

Not all that uncommon. Some people just sleep better in a room alone. I like having my own bed, although I wouldn't expect it if my partner preferred sharing one.

Far more common than you might imagine. So many different reasons that couples (who needn't be married necessarily - but cohabitating) , might choose to have separate beds.

In my mind, makes the conjugal visits fun and exciting - especially with both parties well rested. Whatever works for those involved ! And you can't possibly know what's going on unless you ARE one of those involved ...

I personally have trouble sleeping all night with other humans (cats are ok though).

Loud snoring separates couples.

My hiking partner Karen sleeps in a separate bedroom.

Her husband snores loudly. She can't get any sleep with him. Torture.

To each their own. My husband and I slept in separate rooms for about 2.5 years because of his snoring. But it affected our marriage, we drifted. He finally got a sleep apnea machine and we’re able to share a room again. We’re both much happier.

It may be less than ideal, but it's often just the practical side of life. My husband had sleep apnea and I had the bruises to confirm it (thrashing around is a symptom) so there were nights one of us moved to the guest room. We also had a family bed when our daughter was born and, while it's not for everyone, it provided us a lot of fun and intimacy as a family. I think being flexible and working to optimize each other's needs is what creates a strong union (physically and otherwise), not necessarily whether or not you spend the whole night cuddled with each other.

Young couples usually start out sleeping together. As we age many of us don't sleep as well as the young. Restless nights, wakeful nights and swing shift can be many couples problems.
My husband and I slept together about eighty percent of the time. But if one of us was having a restless night we would go to the guest room rather than both of us having a sleepless night.

I’d give up a limb to have my late husband back in bed with me. He snored as loudly as a freight train, but I’d still rather cuddle and hear that than having the large lonely bed to myself.

He was the only one I wanted such intimacy with. I much prefer my solitude to sharing with anyone else that way.

I was married for 13 years and my wife insisted I sleep in a separate room as soon as we switched from dating to marriage. As it turns out, that was the arrangement she had with her first husband also. She liked to receive sex but didn't like to put any effort into it.

I've known other couples with arrangements like that.

My last boyfriend snored like an apneic walrus. Separate was better.

I would say probably 25% of married couples do that. Sometimes it is snoring or a health issue and sometimes it is a wild sleeper. I'm sure sometimes it is also lack of affinity for each other. I've been lucky and always been able to snuggle and can't imagine the separate bedroom scenario.

It is not common to my knowledge. That's why there is a song... "Sleeping single single in a double bed." I do not know of a single friend in 45 years where hubby and wifey slept in separate bedrooms.

In fact, it is weird. A couple does not sleep in the same bedroom for sex alone. They talk, laugh, snuggle, wake up together and enjoy being together. It is a total experience.

From birth to 12, our daughter always slept between us, never alone. We joined 2 queen beds together. She jumped, played, did pillow fights, we did stories and many fun things. We never did sex in the bedroom. The wife always preferred the walk in closet because she said I made too much noise , although we had a large home.

I've not been married either but I do sleep in the same bed as Frankie.. It seems weird that a couple would have separate beds. I've only seen it on comedy shows...

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I have found charming and reality sometimes need space.

I've never married but did have 2 long term monogamous (10 plus years) relationships. The only reason the first one lasted 15 years is because we worked different shifts. I enjoy second shift. Once we actually began being together on a "normal" schedule things began to go awry - come to find out he really did not like having me around all the time.
Pretty much with my second go round (I questioned his drinking at 7 in the friggin' morning - sems the "coffee" mug did not always have coffee) so yeah too much of a good thing maybe? I don't know.
Also there is sleeping habits. I don't move around when I sleep, my second SO flipped and flopped to the point of being really annoying.
At 67 any new relationship would probably have separate sleeping arrangements for some of the week.
I greatly enjoy cuddling, hugging, touching but sleep is really important and if that is the ONLY area of real non compatibility and each can compromise it's all good.

I don’t think it’s very common in the early days of marriage to sleep separately, but it is extremely common in later years to do so. In fact I’d say it is probably necessary in many cases to keep the marriage happy and prevent divorce. Snoring and restlessness by one of the partners is usually the deciding factor in making the decision to sleep separately, also illness. My husband snored very loudly and although I loved him dearly and enjoyed sleeping in the same bed, after many years of sleepless and fraught nights we slept apart in the latter years prior to his death. The other bugbear was different bedtimes and reading habits, he liked reading in bed, I preferred to read prior to going to bed and the light from his bedside lamp disturbed my sleep.

It doesn’t necessarily indicate a lack of romance or passion in any couple who decide on separate sleeping arrangements, but rather a pragmatism and understanding of the needs of each other in the interest of preserving their union.

I think that sounds wonderful if you have the space, ❤

I think it's a pretty common thing if you have a partner who snores or uses a cpap machine. It's also handy if you're on different shifts or one person is doing FIFO and used to sleeping alone.

This would be perfect for me. And if a sleep over occured, that would be fine too, but nice to be able to have some private space, especially if the couple has different sleep habits.

I'm a night owl, but my significant others have always been early risers, so I'm the one who gets woken up too early in the morning, with only a few hours sleep, so tired all day.

I actually gave my ex-husband the option of staying together, if I could have my own bedroom and bathroom. He declined.

I have a wedding couple who have been married 9 years already and still maintain separate houses, 10 minute drive apart. They are very happy. I'll renew their vows next year on their 10th anniversary.