It does have to start with taking care of yourself first on many levels. That is true.

@mistymoon77

Yes correct. My wider point was we do not have to keep wanting or needing people and things inside our lives to have a happy, complete life. Living independently on own terms works not just fine but a lot better. Living together makes a whole lot sense when you are raising a family and planning/building a future for them. That is just 20 years of the long over 65, 70 years of adult life.

There would have been some reference to a higher power attached somewhere.. thats how they roll.

@mistymoon77 indeed. I am not advocating Aa's 12 steps as the answer to life's strufgglws. I was merely reminded of the print on one side of their sobtirty chips, which says "Keep it simple."