Until this moment I never knew you had any imperfections.

I am not a perfectionist but I have always had low self esteem. I am working on changing that and it feels good. I think a lot of my problems have to do with my upbringing.

Good statement!

Every bit as important as asking how we have stopped self defeating behavior is getting us to consider if we are stuck in some kind of self defeating behavior. I'm going to give that some thought, parts of my life are going nowhere and time is getting a bit short.

Speaking from my personal experiences,
Earning any state of Perfection is goodness, as long as you know that
"Any Failure combined with Personal Resilience On
e Step Towards One's Personal Goal towards Perfection"

While I've not formally drafted a document about it, I have made a conscious effort to let go of perfectionism in myself and what I expect from others. Instead, while I strive for excellence in things I do, I allow myself a bit more freedom to just do things my way and not kick myself so much when I don't reach perfection. It's so much more freeing to have this small change in attitude. Yes, it's a lifelong challenge, but gets easier with practice!

Along the same lines...to strive for perfection is a virtue....to expect perfection, in yourself, or others is irrational.. had to suffer near insanity before accepting. Too often self-defeating habits are as simple as having them identified.

Love it, It has worked for you ,Your right if you put it into words it means so much more and easier for one to strive continually to attain

So, how is it going? I used to have a problem with trying to be constantly strong but got over it after it almost killed me.

Cool