Well none of the ladies on this site who I've messaged have replied back....so I'm going on dates with a Christian now.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Join the freakin' club, bro. I struck out with all the few women that were still on this site from my local area soon after I joined three years ago. A couple of them traded messages with me, but I never met any of them in person. Since then, no new women ever joined from my area. I may get bashed as racist for pointing this out, but I wonder if part of the reason you struck out is that it appears almost all of the female members from your area are white, based on their main pics. Personally, I must admit that even tho I think I'm not that prejudiced compared to most white folks, I am not really that open to dating a black woman, mainly because it's enough of a challenge to find compatibility, in my experience, even when you are the same race to start with. Call me whatever insult or label you like, but I am not up for adding that kind of challenge to the whole experience of getting along with a woman for the long haul. And that's without even considering all the flack we would get from other people in my area for being interracial.
Some people don't care or are up to the challenge and some aren't. But we all have a right to our choices of who we love and prefer.
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
Mar 12, 2021
1
I used to think that way about differences of ethnicity, but now I know some really happy couples who are mixed ethnicity I know that it doesn’t make any difference. You can have a good thing with someone just as long as it’s the right someone. I’d not miss out on the chance to meet someone and get a good thing going just because they have a different heritage or coloured skin anymore.
I do not accept the notion that having similar characteristics is necessary for compatibility.
@editor20 It may not be necessary, but I prefer someone who has most of the same characteristics as me.
For one thing I wouldn’t call this a dating site. It’s basically an online community of mostly former religious folks turned to some form of non believer, regardless of the title you want to go by.
CuddyCruiser
Level 8
Mar 13, 2021
12
Sorry. I didn't mean to hog them all, but the ladies know a good thing when they see it. 
WilliamCharles
Level 8
Mar 12, 2021
12
Though a few slip through the cracks.
A word to the wise: Christian ladies will also ignore you.
How about learning how to engage in normal human interactions?
anglophone
Level 9
Mar 13, 2021
10
Stop whining.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Mar 13, 2021
9
Might he be incel material?
Reminds me a little of the joke, "You should try dating men too so you can double your chances of rejection."
Seriously my friend, find mutual interests in other areas first and see if anything develops. An "I'm taking my bat and ball and going home!" approach is not quite the sales pitch you may think it is.
And there's nothing wrong with believers for dating and/or friendships anyway. As an atheist-agnostic (yes, you can be both), you never know how your godview may ultimately evolve... or theirs.
WilliamCharles
Level 8
Mar 12, 2021
8
Try the Mormons, you can pray for forgiveness together after sex.
Beowulfsfriend
Level 9
Mar 13, 2021
6
What kind of messages are you sending? And how many women have you contacted? It may be the content of the message. We don't have enough information to go by.
HippieChick58
Level 9
Mar 12, 2021
7
FYI....... A lot of ladies look at your posts before they decide to reply. You haven't even been here a year, and have made like five posts.
At least you have a profile (though very small).
kiramea
Level 7
Mar 12, 2021
6
Most of the women here probably see a profile with not much info, few posts or comments in that long of a membership and they suspect the guy is either a scammer or has something else to hide.
its not the size of the profile. its what you do with it
Then you get what you deserve.
Leelu
Level 7
Mar 12, 2021
6
I dated a Catholic woman for six months before Covid and then it broke up with Covid. I have to admit I would have preferred a woman who didn't believe, but she respected my non-belief and didn't push anything religious on me. Other than being a believer and being a political moderate, she was pretty compatible overall on personality and values.
This post has apparently elevated you up a rung from 3 to 4 though, so there's that.
WilliamCharles
Level 8
Mar 13, 2021
3
Well GOOD FOR YOU...I am sure there are a lot of Christian women out there who will LOVE to help you "see the truth"...and "the truth will set you free"...but "maybe"..."just maybe"...your trying too hard...or you don't have anything to offer...but the "real problem is that women don't respond to your advances"...so it's "the woman's fault right?"...smfh
phoenixone1
Level 8
Mar 13, 2021
4
Don't take it personally it seems like everyone that's really interested in someone's is too far away for a real date.
Lorajay
Level 9
Mar 12, 2021
2
That’s a shame. I hear there have been a few success stories, But suppose being a worldwide site... plus any moment things may change. Wishing you mingling singles all the best.
Really didn't think my post would get any attention....much less all of this. For those of you who had a sense of humor about it....thank you it was fun to read. And for those of you who had nothing but snide and pithy remarks....I believe there's a Samuel L. Jackson quote that put it best.....I DON'T REMEMBER ASKIN YOU A GODDAMN THANG!!!
MakasuKudo
Level 4
Mar 14, 2021
4
perhaps ill reply here and tell u that even the christian women keep the standards sky high and u shouldnt waste ur time
glad i could help 
@Gwendolyn2018 You mean to tell me that the person responding to me with a thesis is an English teacher? Color me surprised. Did the sarcasm get across there Gwendy? I've attracted three atheist women in my life so far. And you know what they all had in common? Two little sentences from my mouth didn't repulse them. So if my comment about dating Christian women does that to the women here? Then I'm glad my time wasn't wasted and I wish them the best.
I think you were hoping you'd get a pity date or two out of it. Did it work? If not, time to try a different approach.
I have heard the Baptist singles group is mostly all females. Might try your luck there if you want dunked in water type.
Word
Level 8
Mar 13, 2021
3
Just don't let them catch you dancing.
Good luck. Christian or otherwise most women want to change you and take it as a challenge in which they can change you. This makes dating and relationships into games that people play.
DenoPenno
Level 9
Mar 13, 2021
3
I had no idea you felt that way.
The only person I can change and control is myself.
Hope is not a good plan, as I told pregnant teens.
I'm too old to be changed by anyone, especially a theist.
@Gwendolyn2018 I have corrected my comment and I find yours to accurately describe a hell of a lot of men. LOL
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