Even though I was hurt several times before I met and married my son's father, I would relive all the pain of those past relationships knowing the joy that I experienced during the 19 years we were together, despite any good, bad, ugly, better and worse that occurred as it does during any normal relationship. Even the fact that he died suddenly does not change my feeling that I am more glad that I experienced life together than if we had never met.

totally agree,
I fell in love at 40, 1st time in my life, I guess it will be the only time. Was just amazing, and totally devastating when it died after only 3 months. Glad it happened. Wish it could have lasted.

Agree. Even the bad relationships teach you so much. The good ones make it worthwhile to keep looking.

Better to have loved and lost. Simply because you will always remember the good times and will have learned from the bad times. Win/Win

Disagree. There's little more painful than a breakup of a marriage or long-term relationship.

I have to agree. No matter how many times I've been burned and lost, it would be a tragedy to have never tasted the nectar of sweet love's embrace.

I was going to be cynical, but, it's love, and to love and be loved is the greatest gift. Loss of love still gives you pain when you think of the memories of loving and being loved, and that pain is a gift because it gives you purpose, because you wish to love and be loved again. To never have loved gives you a void that doesn't get filled with anything good.

Always. With almost anything. Better to experience than to not experience.

I don't know, I could sure use the money and property back.

Definitely agree

Agreed. Love is like those paths that you should always try to explore, but the paths are full of dangers. But you never learn unless you fall.

I'll stick my neck out, again.

Better lost than forever wonder what could have been.....

Agree. Not much to elaborate on here. Ive been in love a few times and now I am happily single for the time being.

Sure, the thought of finding someone to share that experience with again in the future is nice, but I am totally comfortable with not being in love at the moment and am in no rush to get there again. If it happens, great. If not, I'll be just fine. I know what it's like and it's not one of my main priorities.

Agreed. Love often. Pain be damned!

Disagree, I think. ?

Never pass up a memory. You control your life. Take a chance and enjoy it all. The army had a great saying. Be all you can be. I never forgot that. If you like a person...then tell them. There are a million people out there that are waiting for your hello. Then you can go from there. Just do it.

At first I thought that "hey at least you tried and made the effort' even though you lost".. now I don't see it so black and white.. maybe sometimes the hurt cuts too deep and it really is better to not have loved at all.. I guess life isn't that simple.. (that's why it took 4+ billion years to get to where we are).. it is our brief existence on this rock and I choose to love it even though it is fleeting..

Best to love and not lose

Totally... if you haven't experienced it at least once, how will you ever know and when you have, and it's gone, you can at least say, you gave it your best shot even though it didn't work.

I have been in and out of love since i was 6 or 7. How can you avoid it? So , from my own experience I cannot accept the premise not to have ever loved.

I think we are better off experiencing love, even when things don’t work out. I can grow from that experience and I always appreciate the love.

yes that is so very true!!!
a few years ago i was in a relationship with a woman that was married but seperated from her husband.
in the end she could not chhose if she wanted to be with me or her husband.
but the short time that we were togeher it was amazing and even through we are only friends right now .
she will always have a place in my heart of hearts.

Agree. Completely.

I believe most humans are social beings who need and want deep connections, love, companionship and sex.

I think if you love yourself first you will never have lost love in the first place