apparently it doesn't matter what they think

I am almost speechless at your lack of empathy & total lack of understanding about what living in a war zone does to people. Did Any of the Afghanies ask to live in a war zone? Raise their children in one? Watch their aging parents experience it instead of Boca Raton?

After a lifetime of seeing their nation under siege, don't expect anyone to be thinking too clearly. You can blame the men, but the country is dirt poor, Islamic in their view, and have witnessed countless atrocities. Probably everyone has some level of PTSD either from the war or from their religion.