How can you make someone love you if you don't love yourself in the first place?

It’s easy for guys to date quality women, just don’t be a loser........

I met a younger man once, we connected from a dating site. I agreed to meet him for lunch. At lunch he revealed he was unemployed, doing odd jobs, living in mom's house. He said he was looking for a woman who would help him find his path. I told him that was his mama's job and he was likely in the right place as he was living under her roof again. I told him I already raised my children and if I needed a project I'd start a new quilt. There was no second date.

I can't imagine having anything other than high standards. I like me and am not alone when I am with myself. If I choose to allow someone to share my life (and they mine) it will be because they make it better, easier, more fulfilling, and more fun.

I once went through a thought exercise to determine the percentage of people I might be compatible with. I used broad categories, and recognize that they are just that, guidelines but generally accurate and useful. I used criteria like uncommonly high intellect, beliefs and values (approximated by political affiliation and degree of religiosity), body type, etc.

The result was a "pool" of a fraction of one percent. For someone I would choose to be with to the exclusion of all others, that seems about right.

As a man who understands he is not the quality he was forty years ago, I could never try chatting up very young ladies. There are a number of very beautiful lasses who work with me, but I see them as surrogate 'daughters' or colleagues not potential lovers.
I have never had the audacity to sidle up and throw myself into full chat up mode like some strutting peacock carrying out a mating dance. I still don't know how to do it - I prefer to be me, if the woman doesn't want the real me, then fine.
Now if the tables were turned and a twenty/thirty something lady came chatting me up, then I would be flattered, but also questioning their motives.
Still, my belly is shrinking away slowly and I'm fittening up, so perhaps I'll move beyond middle standard and become high again.
High standards are not wrong to have, and I at least do not expect a woman to lower her standards because I social media implies I'm entitled to a lover.

He's a mash-up of Foster Brooks, W.C. Fields and Rodney Dangerfield.
He just doesn't know it

Good for them, because I have some pretty high standards myself.

Dating is really hard. The obvious hard drunks are one thing, but sometimes they don't show their true colors until several phone calls or dates later, stay strong my friends. Nobody at all is better than a horror story.

Excellent point