"Let me just say, it is a pleasure to see a woman in a dress, a long wool coat and leather gloves. Are you from the East?" a man asked. He came over as I filled my car with gas.
"Thank you, I grew up in Michigan." I replied. "I'm the only one in Wenatchee who polishes my shoes."
He was wearing dirty jeans, a sweatshirt and old tennis shoes.
I try to dress with simple elegance. Never wore sweats.
Is it such a rarity to try to look nice?
I am trying not to judge people anymore...considering what tRUMP has done to this country there are a LOT of really depressed people walking around and I can't imagine what others are going through...as the expression goes..."Look good, feel good"... Who am I to judge...I have had my disheveled moments as I am sure many others do.
Well put, I definitely havenβt been looking my best lately....
@Buck bueno senor'...sometimes I am coherent......Namaste
I work as a sorter in a recycling plant. A large part of the clothes I wear at work and elsewhere were picked up on the conveyors at my job.
We definitely don't dress up as much as we used to.
Outside of the big city, I do think it's a bit rare to see men and women be attentive to their style and dress in an attractive classy way.
I think Washington State, especially in the suburbs, has a fairly casual dress code as the norm.
Similarly Kauai has pretty casual dress as the norm as well. In my line of work, I often have to get gussied up for weddings, and even when I change my clothes to a somewhat more casual top and skirt, to meet clients, run my errands or to grab a bite to eat with a friend, I get comments from people who are surprised to see someone dressed up, since it's out of the ordinary.
I kinda like having a reason to get dressed up and to look nice for events. On days when I don't work, I admit to dressing as everyone else does, though I do tend to wear dresses or skirts more than pants or shorts, since they're more comfortable and I like the little bit of style it gives, slightly different than others. Depends on what I'm doing.
It's funny when my couples go into the wine shop to get their marriage license (yes, they have to sit on bar stools to get their license, haha) they often will meet me there for the first time, and they'll ask the wine shop owner how to recognize me, and the shop owners describes me as having long hair, usually up in a bun, wearing a skirt and top. They find me right away! It's kind of nice to be recognizable for my style.
Like you, I wear dresses and skirts more than pants.
In summer, skirts and sandals are cooler.
Hmm, I do my best to always be clean and neat but only wear dresses about three times a year anymore. I definitely wear gloves when it's cold.
When I was still in the workforce, I dressed appropriately for an office which often included the dress with a jacket.
Even offices now have a much different dress code than when I retired.
Sadly, yes. Try watching people enter a Wal Mart store. While most people look OK, there are too many who look as if they've just given up be it dirty, baggy, sloppy, ill-fitting, etc. I find older men are often defiant about it, saying something like "I don't give a f%#k what anyone thinks of me!" Actually, they used to, but have given up.
I was working a booth at the county fair this summer....plenty of time to watch people stroll by. There is definitely a laziness involved here. Some people just don't seem to care....shitty shirt is usually the #1 culprit, especially for the men.
If I am going out, (after a shower kind of going out ) I always try to look decent. If I'm going to work....well I'm gonna wear work clothes, and they might not match!
I like to look tidy when I'm out, and I love polishing up my boots.
After my wife died, the system in the UK gave me a year off, while another part of our system said go find a job! I was her care giver in her final three years, so I got paid by the state to look after her.
Anyway, I went off to the local job centre to sort things out, while there I got to see the local 'Pond Scum' wearing attire unfitting for job interviews, or really anything beyond laying in bed. Filthy people who were dressing for failure and succeeding in that task. As the visits wore on, I saw many of these people several times. In each of my visits, I was 'queue jumped' by staff as frankly they would rather deal with a clean smart guy with a smile, than stinking local no-hopers in pajamas. Bit by bit, it became obvious they were beginning to wash and tidy up. As for myself, I got a place in college, a minor degree (ongoing to a Masters at some point) and a job working with Autistic adults.
If "looking nice" was an option I might choose it.
About the only time I dress up is for weddings and funerals and job interviews. At best, such clothes are uncomfortable and ill-fitting and at worst they're hot and feel unpleasant. And I simply can't afford to buy tailored and stylish clothes in my size.
It depends on your definition. Most days I just dress for work. When I don't have to work, and am not going anywhere special, I just throw on whatever (see George, below). If I'm going to dinner, or out with M'Lady, and want to look the part, I will put some effort into it; hell, I dress up just if she's coming to eat takeout here at the apartment.
And then sometimes I don't bother to put on anything at all until about noon, if I'm alone. I'm just comfortable that way. (Unless I see a bug.)
A good question. I would say it depends on who you are and your objective.
Two weeks ago the college sponsored the annual International Powwow. (no longer international - long story) with lots of people dressed to the nines in traditional and extravagant regalia some heavy with feathers, beads, etc. The dancers looked and performed great. A few days later I asked one of my students what she thought of the powwow. "It made me feel proud." was her response. I haven't felt such (short lived) joy and smiled so deeply in many months. Her psyche and back-story is riddled with sadness. In this context, looking nice is a rarity.
Although I have closets full of leather jackets, ties, dress shirts, hats and dress gloves, I almost never don a suite-coat with pressed pants and polished low quarters. Haven't used the iron in many weeks. There is nobody here I am trying to impress. Perhaps I am now just lazy but when at work I will wear a dress shirt, hat, permanent pressed pants and black running shoes. When not at work I will degrade to worn and patched pants and shirts (usually long sleeve dress shirt, sweater or at times a t-shirt).
Sounds (not surprising) like you are a sharp dresser and in these parts barring a special event, would present as a (most pleasant) rarity.
For those of us without any "fashion sense", just wear clean clothes that FIT....that covers about 99% of your daily non special occasion clothes.
I am a Medium Tall ..... talk about a pain in the ass size. The clothing industry in general, manufactures for men that are either 5'6" & weigh 250 lbs. or men that are 6'6" and weigh 350 lbs. (big & tall).
Talk about clueless. Who is in charge? They all need FIRED !
I'm no fashion plate, but I sure feel a helluva lot better when I am in clothes that fit me. Worth every cent of the investment
I dress for work, lately I have been wearing sweatpants, but usually wear overalls. Most people are used to seeing me in overalls. I do not have clothes to dress up as I go nowhere. I am clean.